"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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My weak point

steve_erkle

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Now I'm posting this because I've realized its my biggest weakness and need help getting passed it.

i'm a good looking guy and have decent game. I've had hot girls throw themselves at me.

Sounds good right?...
No.

My problem is , that i just can not take it from the level where were both attracted to where were actually hooking up and everything. It's like, I'll like a girl and she'll like me but i'll be too scared to do anything about it.. and eventually the attraction fades. Anybody else like this? Anyone have any suggestions?

I'm pretty sure the only answer to this is to "just do it in spite of being scared"...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lansing

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I used to be like this...but what I found best was to put yourself in the situation where it would be weird NOT to do anything. Get her alone, and just start talking. Let her know you are attracted, and you shouldn't have to do anything after that, it should just happen. If you are really scared, build the attraction up so much that she takes the next step.

Or take your own advice, and just go for it.
 

ready123

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I was like this too about 6 years ago, basically had no idea how to close

btw, if you can't close, be honest with yourself - you don't have decent game, you need to put in work

and your answer is right, you just gotta barrel through it until you've had enough experiences closing, that you're comfortable with it. and along the way, expect to lose a few girls and have a few awkward situations

it helps to understand that if the girl likes you, she WANTS you to close her, figure out all the logistics, and lead her through it. it also helps to understand basic female social conditioning, and why even though girls are horny as hell, they won't take responsibility for their sexual desires (and thus rely on you to make it happen). imagine the disappointment the girl feels when she thinks she's gonna get laid by this cool guy and he ends up emasculating himself
 
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