TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
....inlaws will be there. Should I bring a woman or no?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My son's first Christmas play is Sunday...
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hello Ladies Man,
So happy to see you are doing your best to bond with your little bloke,he really needs a Father figure.......If your Son knows the Lady concerned,and likes her,then tell him she would like to see his play and if there is no obvious problem then bring her,if there is a problem then do what he says this time,assuming your new Lady has not met your Son then best you don't create potential problems by bringing her along... Assuming your New Lady does tag along,if your relationship with the In laws is cordial then don't be sheepish about introducing your New Lady...Good Luck.
So happy to see you are doing your best to bond with your little bloke,he really needs a Father figure.......If your Son knows the Lady concerned,and likes her,then tell him she would like to see his play and if there is no obvious problem then bring her,if there is a problem then do what he says this time,assuming your new Lady has not met your Son then best you don't create potential problems by bringing her along... Assuming your New Lady does tag along,if your relationship with the In laws is cordial then don't be sheepish about introducing your New Lady...Good Luck.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
It's your son's play, not yours. Unless your girl knows your Son well, I would not even consider it.
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
I decided, as of right now, not to bring a female to my son's Christmas play.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
You know, who cares what your in-laws or your ex think!TheLadiesMan said:I decided, as of right now, not to bring a female to my son's Christmas play.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
Don't do it for them but do it for your son. Trust me, your son wants you to be there but does not want to see his dad's b1tches there too.
Speaking from being a former kid myself (and having both parents divorce and remarried), your kid and your woman lives should not cross paths unless you are planning to get married to her (and even then it will be hard for the kid to accept her for many years). Kids are too young to understand what is happening and may see the woman as competitor as well as it gives your ex more ammo to talk sh1t to the kid ears about your relationship and what kind of a person you are.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Some things are best avoided because there is NO benefit in doing so.
This is one of those situations.
This is your son's first moment in the sun.
Give your focus and affection to him.
Your woman can wait until the next day.
This is one of those situations.
This is your son's first moment in the sun.
Give your focus and affection to him.
Your woman can wait until the next day.
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jophil28
Master Don Juan
What he said.Espi said:I would go alone because I'd feel most relaxed and supportive of my son. Having a woman beside me would make feel as if I have to pay attention to her; this event, of course, is about you and your son...so I would go alone and support him in the most relaxed, fun, and authentic way possible.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear Ladies Man,
I am persuaded to change my view,don't bring your Lady,the other guys are right......As a matter of interest it is always said that to look at your future Mother in Law is to see your wife in a few years.You obviously have a few problems relating to your Mother in Law.Do you think that your problems with your Wife had anything to do with her reverting to type?.
I am persuaded to change my view,don't bring your Lady,the other guys are right......As a matter of interest it is always said that to look at your future Mother in Law is to see your wife in a few years.You obviously have a few problems relating to your Mother in Law.Do you think that your problems with your Wife had anything to do with her reverting to type?.