"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My son's first Christmas play is Sunday...

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Scaramouche

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Hello Ladies Man,
So happy to see you are doing your best to bond with your little bloke,he really needs a Father figure.......If your Son knows the Lady concerned,and likes her,then tell him she would like to see his play and if there is no obvious problem then bring her,if there is a problem then do what he says this time,assuming your new Lady has not met your Son then best you don't create potential problems by bringing her along... Assuming your New Lady does tag along,if your relationship with the In laws is cordial then don't be sheepish about introducing your New Lady...Good Luck.
 

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It's your son's play, not yours. Unless your girl knows your Son well, I would not even consider it.
 

TheLadiesMan

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I decided, as of right now, not to bring a female to my son's Christmas play.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
 

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TheLadiesMan said:
I decided, as of right now, not to bring a female to my son's Christmas play.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
You know, who cares what your in-laws or your ex think!

Don't do it for them but do it for your son. Trust me, your son wants you to be there but does not want to see his dad's b1tches there too.

Speaking from being a former kid myself (and having both parents divorce and remarried), your kid and your woman lives should not cross paths unless you are planning to get married to her (and even then it will be hard for the kid to accept her for many years). Kids are too young to understand what is happening and may see the woman as competitor as well as it gives your ex more ammo to talk sh1t to the kid ears about your relationship and what kind of a person you are.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Some things are best avoided because there is NO benefit in doing so.
This is one of those situations.
This is your son's first moment in the sun.
Give your focus and affection to him.
Your woman can wait until the next day.
 
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I agree with the others that it probably wouldn't be a good idea to bring a woman. I'm just curious though, do you know if your son's mother is bringing a man?
 

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Espi said:
I would go alone because I'd feel most relaxed and supportive of my son. Having a woman beside me would make feel as if I have to pay attention to her; this event, of course, is about you and your son...so I would go alone and support him in the most relaxed, fun, and authentic way possible.
What he said.
 

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Dear Ladies Man,
I am persuaded to change my view,don't bring your Lady,the other guys are right......As a matter of interest it is always said that to look at your future Mother in Law is to see your wife in a few years.You obviously have a few problems relating to your Mother in Law.Do you think that your problems with your Wife had anything to do with her reverting to type?.
 
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