TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
....inlaws will be there. Should I bring a woman or no?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My son's first Christmas play is Sunday...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hello Ladies Man,
So happy to see you are doing your best to bond with your little bloke,he really needs a Father figure.......If your Son knows the Lady concerned,and likes her,then tell him she would like to see his play and if there is no obvious problem then bring her,if there is a problem then do what he says this time,assuming your new Lady has not met your Son then best you don't create potential problems by bringing her along... Assuming your New Lady does tag along,if your relationship with the In laws is cordial then don't be sheepish about introducing your New Lady...Good Luck.
So happy to see you are doing your best to bond with your little bloke,he really needs a Father figure.......If your Son knows the Lady concerned,and likes her,then tell him she would like to see his play and if there is no obvious problem then bring her,if there is a problem then do what he says this time,assuming your new Lady has not met your Son then best you don't create potential problems by bringing her along... Assuming your New Lady does tag along,if your relationship with the In laws is cordial then don't be sheepish about introducing your New Lady...Good Luck.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
It's your son's play, not yours. Unless your girl knows your Son well, I would not even consider it.
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
I decided, as of right now, not to bring a female to my son's Christmas play.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
You know, who cares what your in-laws or your ex think!TheLadiesMan said:I decided, as of right now, not to bring a female to my son's Christmas play.
I think this will be a distraction to the reason I am going.
Inlaws probably won't take too kindly to it, and my son's mother is a insanely jealous person, regardless if we are no longer together or not.
Don't do it for them but do it for your son. Trust me, your son wants you to be there but does not want to see his dad's b1tches there too.
Speaking from being a former kid myself (and having both parents divorce and remarried), your kid and your woman lives should not cross paths unless you are planning to get married to her (and even then it will be hard for the kid to accept her for many years). Kids are too young to understand what is happening and may see the woman as competitor as well as it gives your ex more ammo to talk sh1t to the kid ears about your relationship and what kind of a person you are.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Some things are best avoided because there is NO benefit in doing so.
This is one of those situations.
This is your son's first moment in the sun.
Give your focus and affection to him.
Your woman can wait until the next day.
This is one of those situations.
This is your son's first moment in the sun.
Give your focus and affection to him.
Your woman can wait until the next day.
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jophil28
Master Don Juan
What he said.Espi said:I would go alone because I'd feel most relaxed and supportive of my son. Having a woman beside me would make feel as if I have to pay attention to her; this event, of course, is about you and your son...so I would go alone and support him in the most relaxed, fun, and authentic way possible.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear Ladies Man,
I am persuaded to change my view,don't bring your Lady,the other guys are right......As a matter of interest it is always said that to look at your future Mother in Law is to see your wife in a few years.You obviously have a few problems relating to your Mother in Law.Do you think that your problems with your Wife had anything to do with her reverting to type?.
I am persuaded to change my view,don't bring your Lady,the other guys are right......As a matter of interest it is always said that to look at your future Mother in Law is to see your wife in a few years.You obviously have a few problems relating to your Mother in Law.Do you think that your problems with your Wife had anything to do with her reverting to type?.