"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My Situation...

Anaya07

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Alright this is my first post even though I've been looking around the forums for some time now. Ok so im posting to talk about where I'm at and to take some advice.
So my first period is basketball and we're usually in the gym with all of the other P.E. classes and up until now i havent really tried to talk to any of the girls in there. Well today, this group of people were tossin around a volleyball and it kept getting in the way of our game. So after about he 20th time of having to stop to pick up their volleyball, i noticed this pretty cute freshman standing with them. She walked up to me to get the volleyball back and i said (in a kinda sarcastic tone) "if you keep messing up our game, then we're gonna have some problems." while smiling the whole time. She grabbed the ball from me with a smile from ear to ear. After that i kinda stopped paying attention to them and finished up my game. Before i walked out the gym i air balled a shot and she said
"nice" sarcastically w/ a smile and walked away.

Anyway at this point i could tell she was interested despite me not really doing anything. Later that day i saw her walking down the hall and i flashed her a smile and she returned the favor.

She seems like a really cool girl and I'd like to know what you guys think i should do in this kind of situation.

Sorry about the long post but I'd really appreciate the help from you more experienced DJs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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navyseal2101

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Sounds like you did a very good job congrats! Make a move but don't show too much attention, get to know her a little better then "ask her out" (Just tell her whats going to happen and to give you her number so you can tell her when). You seem to have the right stuff already so good luck with this one.
 

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just mentioning that i(Anaya07) changed my name to BJJkid. Still need help with this girl and i'm basically taking any advice i can get.
 

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the thing is that I've never really had a conversation with her. what do you recommend i say to approach her the next time i see her??? it'll probably be in the gym again so any suggestions??
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just start off the conversation like you would with a friend you have not seen in a while. "Hey, do you remember me? You're the girl I met at so and so on so and so, right."
If you say this 2-3 days after you meet her, chances are she will remember you. If she does not remember you, you didn't make a good first impression on her. Once she says yes, proceed to starting a conversation with her and develop rapport by keeping conversation very interesting. Than do Wolf's method for getting her number.. and you are in!

Worse comes to worse, if she says "no", you can always backfire with a ****y+funny comment such as: "Well, you will remember me after today." ;)

It's a win-win situation either way, try it out and let us know how it goes!
 
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