"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheGambino

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Women talk.

The female, dating community that goes out to clubs and parties is pretty small in ''state'' I live. A lot of girls know eachother and I find it that since I flirt and number close a lot of girls they are talking about me.

For example I had a great vibe with a girl last saturday and she shut down after her gf got mad at her for talking to me. They were heavily discussing me in the toilet I found out. A girl I know told me that randomly.

This is like the 4th time it happens to me and it didnt exactley lead to more dates with the girls.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mrgoodstuff

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Women talk.

The female, dating community that goes out to clubs and parties is pretty small in ''state'' I live. A lot of girls know eachother and I find it that since I flirt and number close a lot of girls they are talking about me.

For example I had a great vibe with a girl last saturday and she shut down after her gf got mad at her for talking to me. They were heavily discussing me in the toilet I found out. A girl I know told me that randomly.

This is like the 4th time it happens to me and it didnt exactley lead to more dates with the girls.
What is it about your reputation?
 

TheGambino

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That they like me, give out numbers, touch me, make out with me but stop contacting me after they hear that I talk to a lot of different girls.
 

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so what are you going to do about it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheGambino

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so what are you going to do about it?
Nothing much, work out harder, focussing on my dreams, work and goals and keep dating until I find the girl I feel real affection for then try to settle.

Not really going to change anything, it is what it is.
 
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