"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My recent POF dates
- Thread starter Zarky
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Anyway I had a POF date a couple of nights ago that turned into a lay. Chick was mid-30s, she was down with my profile that is quite ****y and sexual now.
At first she tried to suggest that we go out for breakfast, I said no. Then she wanted me to come on a first date to see her friend's band play, I said no. There was a whole lot of wrangling and negotiation going on. We finally agreed to go out for drinks.
Went out for drinks near her place, we talked about BS job stuff for about an hour--totally non-sexual. Then we went out to the car and I grabbed her and said, "You talk too much" and started kissing her. She was cool with that and said, "So is there chemistry here?" I said yes.
She invited me over to her place, I followed her home. Got inside and chatted for a little while, then screwed. It was a standard first-date screw, where both parties are going into it knowing that it's going to probably lead to it.
Turns out that she is divorcing her husband, he cheated on her for the last 2 years of their marriage and now she wants to hook up with guys. She's clearly got some emotional baggage but she's a good lay and a decent bod so I might do it again.
This is why I think it's good to use an online profile not only to attract women but to screen them. Very important, if you're getting more than a 25% response rate I think you're not screening them enough. I'd much rather have fewer dates, but dates that lead to lays, rather than a ton of dates that lead nowhere.
I find those kind of dates are so much clearer and easier. I've found myself dating a few uptight chicks lately and they're so defensive that any hint at sex seems to scare them off. At least if you establish the physical stuff before you meet then it's clear what you're aiming for.
I'm starting to think I need to focus more on that. Nice women and "keepers" sound good in theory, but they're too much work and rarely lead to anything worthwhile.
Keep us posted!