I know there has been a lot of posts about this.. But I honestly need some advice on how to stop being a nice guy not only just for chicks but life in general I'm the type of guy to fight for people without question yet people don't do the same for me being nice has basically ruined my life I'm getting better at becoming assertive but I'm still not happy about my progress...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My problem..
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Don't be afraid of hurting people's feelings. If you don't want to do something (ie nice things) for people, don't do them.
If you have a divergent opinion to whatever bullsht a girl is speaking, don't be afraid to speak up.
Don't buy random girls drinks, don't agree to hold their purse or drink while they go off somewhere, set some life rules or principles and stick to them.
If you have a divergent opinion to whatever bullsht a girl is speaking, don't be afraid to speak up.
Don't buy random girls drinks, don't agree to hold their purse or drink while they go off somewhere, set some life rules or principles and stick to them.
moneyisking
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lift weights, that's the best advice I can give you online. Then progressively, continue to learn and apply yourself to stop being nice; don't be a d!ck, but don't be nice b/c people don't deserve you man. I was a total pvssy all the way to highschool, then starting college, things changed after lifting weights and becoming stronger. Now I confront people if they disrespect me in any smallest ways men and women although people rarely do that b/c usually those who will not tolerate disrespect give off that vibe. Then you start to become little ****y and add in some humor there and start busting people. I am at that stage and those alone don't get you laid but def better than being nice pushover. Gota work on some kino and being more confident. good luck