I know there has been a lot of posts about this.. But I honestly need some advice on how to stop being a nice guy not only just for chicks but life in general I'm the type of guy to fight for people without question yet people don't do the same for me being nice has basically ruined my life I'm getting better at becoming assertive but I'm still not happy about my progress...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My problem..
- Thread starter DB12
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Don't be afraid of hurting people's feelings. If you don't want to do something (ie nice things) for people, don't do them.
If you have a divergent opinion to whatever bullsht a girl is speaking, don't be afraid to speak up.
Don't buy random girls drinks, don't agree to hold their purse or drink while they go off somewhere, set some life rules or principles and stick to them.
If you have a divergent opinion to whatever bullsht a girl is speaking, don't be afraid to speak up.
Don't buy random girls drinks, don't agree to hold their purse or drink while they go off somewhere, set some life rules or principles and stick to them.
moneyisking
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lift weights, that's the best advice I can give you online. Then progressively, continue to learn and apply yourself to stop being nice; don't be a d!ck, but don't be nice b/c people don't deserve you man. I was a total pvssy all the way to highschool, then starting college, things changed after lifting weights and becoming stronger. Now I confront people if they disrespect me in any smallest ways men and women although people rarely do that b/c usually those who will not tolerate disrespect give off that vibe. Then you start to become little ****y and add in some humor there and start busting people. I am at that stage and those alone don't get you laid but def better than being nice pushover. Gota work on some kino and being more confident. good luck