I know there has been a lot of posts about this.. But I honestly need some advice on how to stop being a nice guy not only just for chicks but life in general I'm the type of guy to fight for people without question yet people don't do the same for me being nice has basically ruined my life I'm getting better at becoming assertive but I'm still not happy about my progress...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
My problem..
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Don't be afraid of hurting people's feelings. If you don't want to do something (ie nice things) for people, don't do them.
If you have a divergent opinion to whatever bullsht a girl is speaking, don't be afraid to speak up.
Don't buy random girls drinks, don't agree to hold their purse or drink while they go off somewhere, set some life rules or principles and stick to them.
If you have a divergent opinion to whatever bullsht a girl is speaking, don't be afraid to speak up.
Don't buy random girls drinks, don't agree to hold their purse or drink while they go off somewhere, set some life rules or principles and stick to them.
moneyisking
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lift weights, that's the best advice I can give you online. Then progressively, continue to learn and apply yourself to stop being nice; don't be a d!ck, but don't be nice b/c people don't deserve you man. I was a total pvssy all the way to highschool, then starting college, things changed after lifting weights and becoming stronger. Now I confront people if they disrespect me in any smallest ways men and women although people rarely do that b/c usually those who will not tolerate disrespect give off that vibe. Then you start to become little ****y and add in some humor there and start busting people. I am at that stage and those alone don't get you laid but def better than being nice pushover. Gota work on some kino and being more confident. good luck