"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My problem -- a plea

danielzxc

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I'm 24.

I'd love to get good at daytime. I'm at university, but I don't hang out there - just go to classes and then off to work. I have started quite a few conversations with chicks in my classes, but I don't really class these as approaches cos I never intended to ask them out -- I just felt like meeting them.

To reiterate: to me an "approach" is going up to her, opening her with whatever, and asking an "at risk" type question -- number, date, instadate etc. Or, at a slightly lower level, but still "riskier" is opening her with, or making very soon after an opening, an unambiguously sexual comment/compliment -- of course, such a comment tends to naturally lead to asking her out, but in just case you don't, I would stil class an approach that includes a comment like this an "approach", albeit a slightly lesser one.

to explain it further, the reason I don't class the conversations I have at uni with chicks as "approaches", even when I do in fact open them is that it's just such a low risk environment and it's EASY to just get talking and laughin. But I can do that all day and never actually RISK anything (which is, in fact, what happens), so to me it's not a REAL approach.

(I don't drink, btw, well, maybe one or two, but I'm never walking the streets "drunk".)

At the moment, daytime just seems really awkward to me. Some days, I feel really good, confident and pumped up, and I feel "on the verge" of busting out some his and how's it goings, but at that "crunch" moment I back out. For now, anyway.

As I mentioned in the last post though, I'm feeling much improved over how I was even two weeks ago. It might seem silly to call this "improvement", but that's only if you take a black/white view. I'm still not approaching, so in this sense there's no improvement. However, in my mind, the way i FEEL about the idea, I am WAY "closer" to it than a couple of months ago. The thought of it feels a lot more "normal" to me now. A few months ago, the idea seemed almost "fantastic", like who ARE these people that go around doing this stuff?? Today, it's not like that at all.

However, to be honest, I'm actulaly more interested in 'night game'. If I had a choice of which one I could excel at, I'd pick night any day. (Lol) People make the point that chicks have their "defences" up in night game, but I'm pretty confident that I'm a kinda guy they'd like to meet, so that aspect of it doesn't really bother me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GamePlan

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I think considering talking to somebody in class isn't exactly an approach, either. Good if you do it but youd be fooling yourself to count them as approaches.

I don't know what it is about myself. But if a chick gives me (long enough) eye contact, I walk up to her and say "hi" and she says "hi" back and I can talk to her for a couple of minutes, I really don't think I would have any problem to ask for her number or something like that, because Id feel that its totally clear whats going on. Like..Id have huge issues and would feel stupid asking a chick for the time and then talking to her and then asking for her number (expecting to get blown off anyways). But if shes already looking at me and obviously giving me EC..and I can start talking to her, I really wouldnt feel any strange asking for her number, I guess.

But anyways, Ima take a shower, put on some fresh clothes and go out there!
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Nice Work Daniel, yea....its an approach...as u went up to her.
 
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