"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My plates; is this one broken?

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Check out my threads "Good Girls Don't Exist", and "Regaining Power in a Relationship" for some more background information.

Summary:

Hooked up with chick last summer. She went to college. We stayed together. Broke up about 3 months into it. She comes back for Christmas Break, we **** and she likes me again (calls me all the time, tells me, etc.).

She leaves for college again, calls me all the time. Annoys me and I tell her I want a communication break (this is where things start going downhill). She agrees after I give her a bull**** excuse. I call her a few days later, but she won't just take my call instead she makes a big scene out of it. I kind of say "**** her" for a while, I'm a little confused as to what she wants. I try multiple times to find out if she is interested in a relationship or what her deal is. She makes excuses to not talk about it, etc. Again I kind of move on, and last Friday for my B-day I made out with two of her good friends (at the same time I mind you :) ) and almost end up banging a total stranger.

Ex finds out about this is and is extremely pissed off with me and her friends. I can't understand why so I try a couple times to find out (we weren't going out). She keeps telling me she needs time not talking to me, and she NEEDS to move on in life but she still HASN'T. Finally she tells me why she's mad, I apologize stating I thought we didn't agree to anything, but I'm sorry that I upset her so badly. I told her I still care about her.

Anywho, I havn't talked in any form to her since last Sunday. I'm getting a bit annoyed with her. I don't know what she needs time for. I'm thinking I should just text her saying, "hey I'll give you more time alone, I'm done for good". I still like her, and I have other plates going so it's not like I'm obsessing about her but I'm getting sick of waiting around for this broad.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I thought this text sounded better:

"I ain't gonna keep waiting for you to get your thoughts straight. I'm done".
 

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I would love some insight tonight. My instincts are telling me to send it, but I want some more experienced advice.
 
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