"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My plates; is this one broken?

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Check out my threads "Good Girls Don't Exist", and "Regaining Power in a Relationship" for some more background information.

Summary:

Hooked up with chick last summer. She went to college. We stayed together. Broke up about 3 months into it. She comes back for Christmas Break, we **** and she likes me again (calls me all the time, tells me, etc.).

She leaves for college again, calls me all the time. Annoys me and I tell her I want a communication break (this is where things start going downhill). She agrees after I give her a bull**** excuse. I call her a few days later, but she won't just take my call instead she makes a big scene out of it. I kind of say "**** her" for a while, I'm a little confused as to what she wants. I try multiple times to find out if she is interested in a relationship or what her deal is. She makes excuses to not talk about it, etc. Again I kind of move on, and last Friday for my B-day I made out with two of her good friends (at the same time I mind you :) ) and almost end up banging a total stranger.

Ex finds out about this is and is extremely pissed off with me and her friends. I can't understand why so I try a couple times to find out (we weren't going out). She keeps telling me she needs time not talking to me, and she NEEDS to move on in life but she still HASN'T. Finally she tells me why she's mad, I apologize stating I thought we didn't agree to anything, but I'm sorry that I upset her so badly. I told her I still care about her.

Anywho, I havn't talked in any form to her since last Sunday. I'm getting a bit annoyed with her. I don't know what she needs time for. I'm thinking I should just text her saying, "hey I'll give you more time alone, I'm done for good". I still like her, and I have other plates going so it's not like I'm obsessing about her but I'm getting sick of waiting around for this broad.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I thought this text sounded better:

"I ain't gonna keep waiting for you to get your thoughts straight. I'm done".
 

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I would love some insight tonight. My instincts are telling me to send it, but I want some more experienced advice.
 
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