Djnomore, I promise you... Lying on your profile isn't a good idea.
Jay Fielder, Ok got it now. Not bad, though if you insist on lying about your age you might want to raise it to 35 or higher.
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I agree about the lying. I just did it to get my ‘foot in the door’. Internet ‘dating’ is different though, because no one on the street disqualifies you because of your age in the first 3 seconds, they don’t know this just yet…and they get to know you at a different level and won’t prejudge you.
I told chicks I was over 40 and then the conversation takes on a different dimension. Some chicks once they find out don’t mind, especially if they are over 26 and looking for marriage – they see you as more stable and less apt to cheat on them for a younger women.
SOBmania, I tried that Yahoo Personals and it did not work for me. Maybe I was a bit too picky, but none of the women ever responded to any of my e-mail
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Very difficult to engage interest over the internet – some girls are looking for ltr’s, others are looking for sex only. Everyone seems to be extra picky on the internet. You are sharing a lot of information about yourself beforehand without them knowing your humor, charm or personality. So decisions are strictly based on looks and matter-of- fact criteria.
Gigalo DJ Meeting chicks online is an EXCUSE.
Howie Farkes, Meh... meeting chicks is meeting chicks. They ain't less REAL because your first contact was online.
Franciso d’Anconia, Not taking advantage of a viable medium as an alternative is the excuse for a lack of skills. What are you afraid of?
PUA_GUY, Sarging online is a waste of time and should be left to those who have problems with their image, who have speech impariment or who are damn shy.
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Not all of us are Gigalos
and have women pursuing us, some of us have to be the aggressors, this is just another form of action. The internet is an alternative way, that’s al! It definitely doesn’t take the place of intimate personal contact but, I refuse to not take advantage of a medium that just opened up my field of opportunities by a thousand fold! Why would you not take advantage of such technology…If I had this 20 years ago it would have opened a whole new world possibilities to my romantic life in my youth. And it is so darn easy, doesn’t take much effort and it is a great supplementary to the street.
This is great tool if you are shy and especially if you have a speech impediment, you may not be much of a conversationalist, but if you have good writing skills and have a way with words you’ll have her heart and mind sooner than if you were attempting to impress her in person – I’m serious! Women love it when a man can expresses himself well, if not verbally then in their writing.
Think about it guys, a shy person has a difficult time approaching because his shyness holds back his tongue (and his feet) because he just don’t know what to say or has problems fueling the conversation. On the internet however, he can take his time responding under no pressure of having awkward silences and thus his responses will be more tactful and purposeful and he can be more expressive through writing than his speech because he has temporarily overcomed his shyness and has now become more comfortable with her and the whole situation. This can only be positive development for a first step.
Where else but the ‘internet’, can you scope for chicks at 4 in the morning in your underwear, drinking a beer and at the same time flip through porn magazines (not that I do that)
Clooney, When you have your ah "Puerto Rican garb on", you sorta remind me of the Johnny Depp "cool" image. I would go for that look if I was you.
Good luck with the profile. Oh yeah, and I would just put your age as your real age. After all, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Lenny Kravitz etc are around this age (40) anyways, a LOT of woman go for their mature style. Take it easy
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Yes, women are more flexible, in the age category, especially when you are a movie star and you have a few million dollars in the bank!
Girls love that bad boy cool image if you can pull it off – but when it’s 8 degrees Fahrenheit outside, wearing a doo-rag makes you look crazy, and I'm crazy enough already. I save that look for the summer.
Louis, I consider myself to be an intelligent and sincere person, with having a straightforward personality, and a quick-witted sense of humor. I have a positive attitude and outlook on life and looking for someone that possesses the same
I would try to come up with something more original. Apart from the photo (which is fine) these words are the first thing women will see.
Be creative. What food do you like? Say something unusual about a passion of yours. Even if the woman doesn't share your passion, it will stand out from the crowd.
In my experience, women enjoy creativity - so stress any creative interests you have (music, writing and so on).
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Yeah, I know it is not my best writing, I’m thinking about adding to it but I don’t want to give too much away, I like to open up when they contact me. There is plenty of information on profiles already that give her an idea of who I am and what I’m about – moreso than if she saw me on the street!
Kineti[C]harm, Ye cool PR_L! If I were you I'd shave the facial hair at least the mustache and get some "cooler" shirts You have the face for some really cool image/styles!
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I haven’t worn a full mustache for about 10 years – I think I look better without it (I don’t like the way it grows). But I do always wear a faint mustache (shadow), it adds texture, depth and more dimension to your facial features. I use clippers to trim it. Also I only shave once or twice a week – I have very sensitive skin – I bleed like a virgin on her wedding night (that was a saying 40 years ago that doesn’t apply today), or I bleed like a hor getting stabbed by her boyfriend (applies today moreso than yesterday
I can go with a few different hair styles, women seem to like the wavy curly look. I have a few hundred shirts in my closet, from the Miami ‘hot Latin’ look to my New York ‘ganster’ look, to my Wisconsin ‘how ya doing’ look. I also have plenty of Don Juan suits for all occasions and seasons…why are you slamming my attire?
Francisco d’Anconia, Hey PR_L I finally got to a link that works. Here's my opinion:
1) Drop the "I consider myself". It sounds as if you are the only one that thinks you are. If you are intelligent and sincere, just say it.
2) Give examples that show that you have a quick wit.
3) Elaborate on the qualities of a woman that impress you.
4) Put in some criteria for ABOUT YOUR MATCH. Using ANY for every response screams that you have no preferences and will date anyone(thing).
5) Don't post all of your pictures at once. Rotate them and change your profile every couple of weeks. Also consider adding some outside action shots with friends.
Here's a suggestion, do a search on the guys that are your competition in your area. Notice how all of the profiles look the same? Make yours stick out by saying something different. By the way, something c/f works well as a headline.
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Francisco, lest you forget, I am the PuertoRican_Lover, I have no competition!
All your points are valid! I included the phrase, “I consider myself” because to outright say, “I am intelligent and sincere” sounds arrogant, If someone else says it about me then it’s ok but it seems like a command versus an opinion.
Yes I use my wit and humor more when I e-mail them personally –I’ll share with you one of the letters I wrote, in another post.
I only specify the qualities that I want in a girl that are the ‘most’ important to me, everything else is immaterial. I don’t care if she does naked body painting as a hobby…wait a minute, maybe I do!
I’m more concerned with ‘no kids’, ‘single’ ‘age’, looks etc. I use the ‘any’ option because these categories Yahoo gives you are blanket general statements that don’t go into detail – I’ll get more info from her once I make contact through e-mail – you can get into more depth then.
Every time you change your picture, it could take up to 24 hours for them to change and in the meantime your profile is ‘shut-down’ while editing (they r checking for obscene gestures or offensive material to exclude) – and in the meantime a HB9.9 could have missed your profile!
Why not just include all the pics – you’ll attract more women because each one might like a different look and this opens your field of play. Also the pics I took were in the last two weeks (except one) and solely for the ad. It’s cold outside and I don’t look too good wearing my Russian muskrat winter hat with my Eskimo seal skin coat – I look like I’m going hunting or ice fishing. In a way I am, but I’m fishing and hunting for ladies and not animals!
