"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm going to make a long story short. Basically I was driving got to a stop sign over by a supermarket. Who do I see? you guessed it walking with who I think was her ex boyfriend. She looks me dead in the eyes, like oh shyt turns around and grabs his hand. Keep in mind I'm in my car and this is literally 2ft away lol. This is after weeks of dangling me around. Talk about a stab to the heart . Live and learn i guess. Guys stay emotionally detached at all times!!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'll share my philosophy.

Don't love A woman. LOVE ALL women. Hate individual women. If A woman doesn't appreciate your warmth give it freely to someone else.

I have to be very careful about certain types of women so that I don't fall for them. I might have a crush right now but it is having no effect on me at all because I have not forgotten to love all women and hate individual ones.
 
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Originally posted by Mr Spitfire
I'll share my philosophy.

Don't love A woman. LOVE ALL women. Hate individual women. If A woman doesn't appreciate your warmth give it freely to someone else.

I have to be very careful about certain types of women so that I don't fall for them. I might have a crush right now but it is having no effect on me at all because I have not forgotten to love all women and hate individual ones.
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The thing about love or the feeling of attraction isn't much of a choice. The moment you feel attraction to a girl that is trouble you have to avoid her at all cost or else it might grow into oneitis.
 
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If you are talking about the girl I might have a crush on I agree. That has been my strategy for a long time now. I have very little contact with her despite our proximity. Im telling you, there is fireworks and lightning when we look at eachother and its seems pretty mutual. So I totally avoid her but that doesnt mean I can't take her when she comes my way.

I can totally kill her power by fvcking her. The thing is I think she has liked me for a while. She gets nervous, flushy, flustered smiling like she is thrilled around me, and jealous of other girls. But I avoid her and don't look at her unless it would be rude not to.

I have actually taken steps to back her off also even though I think she is genuine. I don't need her. She is probably mine for the taking but I have to play by my rules.

I have a lot of game right now. No need to endanger that with a foolish oneitis.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Remulak
Guys stay emotionally detached at all times!!
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After getting hurt in the past (once is enough) I say NO to any emotional attachment to girls I barely know (less than 6 months).
 
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