Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The thing about love or the feeling of attraction isn't much of a choice. The moment you feel attraction to a girl that is trouble you have to avoid her at all cost or else it might grow into oneitis.Originally posted by Mr Spitfire
I'll share my philosophy.
Don't love A woman. LOVE ALL women. Hate individual women. If A woman doesn't appreciate your warmth give it freely to someone else.
I have to be very careful about certain types of women so that I don't fall for them. I might have a crush right now but it is having no effect on me at all because I have not forgotten to love all women and hate individual ones.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
After getting hurt in the past (once is enough) I say NO to any emotional attachment to girls I barely know (less than 6 months).Originally posted by Remulak
Guys stay emotionally detached at all times!!