I went on 2 dates with this HB8 and we had lots of fun and established lots of rapport. Waited a few days and invited her to come over and watch a movie, and she said she was busy. She has been giving me lots of IOIs that she likes me. She also counteroffered to hang out on the weekend, and I told her maybe. What should my next move be, to remain mysterious and to move things along?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
My next move after couple of dates?
- Thread starter Bettis76
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Colinski282
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She may have actually been busy to which why she may have counter-offered, if you like her then take her up on it....but not sounding needy/desperate. If she counter-offers then say sure if i have free time on that given day. Dont become harsh to her. Your next move? Take her up on the counter-offer bro. Tell her you found a spot in your busy schedule this weekend to hang out.
Colinski gave sound advice. Take her up on the counter offer. People are genuinely busy sometimes, and when they are they counter-offer. Don't play games and throw an unneccessary wrench in an otherwise simple process.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I'd take her up on her offer too but she may have changed her mind by acting like a disappointed AFC by first telling her "maybe." You could have just said that you would have to check to see if you were free. Do something like that again and she'll think that you've lost interest.
Set something up for yesterday and the chick flaked on me a few hours before the date with an obvious BS excuse. She showed VERY high interest on our last date and IDK, but it seems that she is playing games with me. Do I next her or give her one more chance?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I guess she lost interest first. Well, live and learn; next.Bettis76 said:Set something up for yesterday and the chick flaked on me a few hours before the date with an obvious BS excuse. She showed VERY high interest on our last date and IDK, but it seems that she is playing games with me. Do I next her or give her one more chance?