I went on 2 dates with this HB8 and we had lots of fun and established lots of rapport. Waited a few days and invited her to come over and watch a movie, and she said she was busy. She has been giving me lots of IOIs that she likes me. She also counteroffered to hang out on the weekend, and I told her maybe. What should my next move be, to remain mysterious and to move things along?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My next move after couple of dates?
- Thread starter Bettis76
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Colinski282
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She may have actually been busy to which why she may have counter-offered, if you like her then take her up on it....but not sounding needy/desperate. If she counter-offers then say sure if i have free time on that given day. Dont become harsh to her. Your next move? Take her up on the counter-offer bro. Tell her you found a spot in your busy schedule this weekend to hang out.
Colinski gave sound advice. Take her up on the counter offer. People are genuinely busy sometimes, and when they are they counter-offer. Don't play games and throw an unneccessary wrench in an otherwise simple process.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I'd take her up on her offer too but she may have changed her mind by acting like a disappointed AFC by first telling her "maybe." You could have just said that you would have to check to see if you were free. Do something like that again and she'll think that you've lost interest.
Set something up for yesterday and the chick flaked on me a few hours before the date with an obvious BS excuse. She showed VERY high interest on our last date and IDK, but it seems that she is playing games with me. Do I next her or give her one more chance?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I guess she lost interest first. Well, live and learn; next.Bettis76 said:Set something up for yesterday and the chick flaked on me a few hours before the date with an obvious BS excuse. She showed VERY high interest on our last date and IDK, but it seems that she is playing games with me. Do I next her or give her one more chance?