You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
VastanVer2.0 said:Got another bite with the message. She responded 24 hours after she viewed it. We've sent a couple of messages back and forth, with my last message being "So if I go to your house my profile better be on your fridge!! lol". Not sure how to respond to that other than something like "whoo, hold on. I'm not that easy" or something.
You have to look your most attractive in your pictures. If you've got crappy ones...good luck to ya.Nutz said:This amounts to "be good looking". When it comes to online game that's the elephant in the room, you better be at least above average in looks or you're fighting a massive uphill battle.
Tried your "you're going to blow it toots" message. Just got a "Ahhh my bad!". No number, oh well.Naughty Ninja said:You HAVE to have your BEST pictures up. Or one's you feel make you look really "appetizing" to them. Put up at least one beach pic or t-shirt pic if you work out. They are looking at the PICTURES.
the email they'll respond to. You have to have good pics. The profile can be a basic one. No negativity. Let them whine on theirs.
Don't try to go for a number after one reply. Give it about 3 or four replies then ask..If they don't give a number...ask for a Facebook (to see more pictures of them)..then after a few days send:
Headline: You're going to blow it toots. =(
Body: You're going to blow it toots. =( Naughty, Naughty. You aren’t going to squirm your way out of this. I'm not the type of guy to run away like a shrieking schoolgirl because you didn't give out the magic digits. Now you play nice with me and don't disappoint the both of us! =)
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
MartyMcFly said:Lol so I just sent Naughty's message to a few girls. To me personally I feel like a nerd when I send it but if it works... hell. I can live with being a nerd. lol
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
JustWuzzle said:damn just got another reply from a girl that luck better than the previous she says "aww how sweet". I really don't know what to say.
Four_Aces said:This is some GOOD ****. Kudos to the OP. I have used this line on about 50 POF ladies, got 10 good replies, ended up hanging out with 5 so far, 2 of which have been hot/cute and I physically escalated.
you da man naughty ninja!
Full disclosure: I have 6 pics on my profile, I am tall and decent looking.
Your unprovoked comments are rather hostile and enormously counter-productive, especially to those who are trying to implement your ideas. I respect you for trying to help others on this forum, but calling them fags and retards isn't exactly going to encourage them to learn.Listen stop being half a friggin fag and as SOON as they REPLY YOU REPLY "Hey. I really liked your profile. How was your weekend? Do anything fun?
And then ask one or two sentence questions and build up to longer replies....
Jesus H Christ are the lot of you completely socially retarded?!?! I can name a few of you posters that seem like you can just TALK to a person. It's not rocket science,
Fvck the DJ ninja so suave smooth tactics...ACT LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING. Talk like you're just meeting someone and not a "hawt" chick and have a fvcking NORMAL conversation. Sh!t....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sceptre said:Your unprovoked comments are rather hostile and enormously counter-productive, especially to those who are trying to implement your ideas. I respect you for trying to help others on this forum, but calling them fags and retards isn't exactly going to encourage them to learn.
Driving an hour to meet them is fine....IF YOU'RE GOING TO THEIR APARTMENT!Robyn923b said:I scored a number with an hb9 last night!![]()
She's beauuutiful. Light tan skin, Samoan & white mixed with honey-colored eyes, nice lips & smile and a tiiight little body.
This is my first number on POF and one of the few numbers I've gotten since my 2.5 year LTR break-up two months ago. I'm really excited to meet this girl.
The only problem is she lives an hour away, but I'm thinking about meeting in the middle. Comments and thoughts are welcomed!
Here's a pic:
http://i73.photobucket.com/albums/i202/Robyn923b/kvfagx55x5_117897540-2.jpg
She's eighteen; I doubt she has her own place and if she lives with her parents I most likely won't be allowed in her roomf283000 said:Driving an hour to meet them is fine....IF YOU'RE GOING TO THEIR APARTMENT!
I hope you made it a home movie date at her place which is pretty much guaranteed action if she accepts.
I don't know how you can agree to drive an hour for anything besides that. An hour drive just for dinner? coffee? I'd feel robbed if I don't get something in return for driving that far!
In fact you should always pursue this option first. Get them to accept a home movie date at her place or your place.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.