Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
VastanVer2.0 said:Got another bite with the message. She responded 24 hours after she viewed it. We've sent a couple of messages back and forth, with my last message being "So if I go to your house my profile better be on your fridge!! lol". Not sure how to respond to that other than something like "whoo, hold on. I'm not that easy" or something.
You have to look your most attractive in your pictures. If you've got crappy ones...good luck to ya.Nutz said:This amounts to "be good looking". When it comes to online game that's the elephant in the room, you better be at least above average in looks or you're fighting a massive uphill battle.
Tried your "you're going to blow it toots" message. Just got a "Ahhh my bad!". No number, oh well.Naughty Ninja said:You HAVE to have your BEST pictures up. Or one's you feel make you look really "appetizing" to them. Put up at least one beach pic or t-shirt pic if you work out. They are looking at the PICTURES.
the email they'll respond to. You have to have good pics. The profile can be a basic one. No negativity. Let them whine on theirs.
Don't try to go for a number after one reply. Give it about 3 or four replies then ask..If they don't give a number...ask for a Facebook (to see more pictures of them)..then after a few days send:
Headline: You're going to blow it toots. =(
Body: You're going to blow it toots. =( Naughty, Naughty. You aren’t going to squirm your way out of this. I'm not the type of guy to run away like a shrieking schoolgirl because you didn't give out the magic digits. Now you play nice with me and don't disappoint the both of us! =)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MartyMcFly said:Lol so I just sent Naughty's message to a few girls. To me personally I feel like a nerd when I send it but if it works... hell. I can live with being a nerd. lol
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
JustWuzzle said:damn just got another reply from a girl that luck better than the previous she says "aww how sweet". I really don't know what to say.
Four_Aces said:This is some GOOD ****. Kudos to the OP. I have used this line on about 50 POF ladies, got 10 good replies, ended up hanging out with 5 so far, 2 of which have been hot/cute and I physically escalated.
you da man naughty ninja!
Full disclosure: I have 6 pics on my profile, I am tall and decent looking.
Your unprovoked comments are rather hostile and enormously counter-productive, especially to those who are trying to implement your ideas. I respect you for trying to help others on this forum, but calling them fags and retards isn't exactly going to encourage them to learn.Listen stop being half a friggin fag and as SOON as they REPLY YOU REPLY "Hey. I really liked your profile. How was your weekend? Do anything fun?
And then ask one or two sentence questions and build up to longer replies....
Jesus H Christ are the lot of you completely socially retarded?!?! I can name a few of you posters that seem like you can just TALK to a person. It's not rocket science,
Fvck the DJ ninja so suave smooth tactics...ACT LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING. Talk like you're just meeting someone and not a "hawt" chick and have a fvcking NORMAL conversation. Sh!t....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
sceptre said:Your unprovoked comments are rather hostile and enormously counter-productive, especially to those who are trying to implement your ideas. I respect you for trying to help others on this forum, but calling them fags and retards isn't exactly going to encourage them to learn.
Driving an hour to meet them is fine....IF YOU'RE GOING TO THEIR APARTMENT!Robyn923b said:I scored a number with an hb9 last night!![]()
She's beauuutiful. Light tan skin, Samoan & white mixed with honey-colored eyes, nice lips & smile and a tiiight little body.
This is my first number on POF and one of the few numbers I've gotten since my 2.5 year LTR break-up two months ago. I'm really excited to meet this girl.
The only problem is she lives an hour away, but I'm thinking about meeting in the middle. Comments and thoughts are welcomed!
Here's a pic:
http://i73.photobucket.com/albums/i202/Robyn923b/kvfagx55x5_117897540-2.jpg
She's eighteen; I doubt she has her own place and if she lives with her parents I most likely won't be allowed in her roomf283000 said:Driving an hour to meet them is fine....IF YOU'RE GOING TO THEIR APARTMENT!
I hope you made it a home movie date at her place which is pretty much guaranteed action if she accepts.
I don't know how you can agree to drive an hour for anything besides that. An hour drive just for dinner? coffee? I'd feel robbed if I don't get something in return for driving that far!
In fact you should always pursue this option first. Get them to accept a home movie date at her place or your place.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.