I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
VastanVer2.0 said:Got another bite with the message. She responded 24 hours after she viewed it. We've sent a couple of messages back and forth, with my last message being "So if I go to your house my profile better be on your fridge!! lol". Not sure how to respond to that other than something like "whoo, hold on. I'm not that easy" or something.
You have to look your most attractive in your pictures. If you've got crappy ones...good luck to ya.Nutz said:This amounts to "be good looking". When it comes to online game that's the elephant in the room, you better be at least above average in looks or you're fighting a massive uphill battle.
Tried your "you're going to blow it toots" message. Just got a "Ahhh my bad!". No number, oh well.Naughty Ninja said:You HAVE to have your BEST pictures up. Or one's you feel make you look really "appetizing" to them. Put up at least one beach pic or t-shirt pic if you work out. They are looking at the PICTURES.
the email they'll respond to. You have to have good pics. The profile can be a basic one. No negativity. Let them whine on theirs.
Don't try to go for a number after one reply. Give it about 3 or four replies then ask..If they don't give a number...ask for a Facebook (to see more pictures of them)..then after a few days send:
Headline: You're going to blow it toots. =(
Body: You're going to blow it toots. =( Naughty, Naughty. You aren’t going to squirm your way out of this. I'm not the type of guy to run away like a shrieking schoolgirl because you didn't give out the magic digits. Now you play nice with me and don't disappoint the both of us! =)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MartyMcFly said:Lol so I just sent Naughty's message to a few girls. To me personally I feel like a nerd when I send it but if it works... hell. I can live with being a nerd. lol
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
JustWuzzle said:damn just got another reply from a girl that luck better than the previous she says "aww how sweet". I really don't know what to say.
Four_Aces said:This is some GOOD ****. Kudos to the OP. I have used this line on about 50 POF ladies, got 10 good replies, ended up hanging out with 5 so far, 2 of which have been hot/cute and I physically escalated.
you da man naughty ninja!
Full disclosure: I have 6 pics on my profile, I am tall and decent looking.
Your unprovoked comments are rather hostile and enormously counter-productive, especially to those who are trying to implement your ideas. I respect you for trying to help others on this forum, but calling them fags and retards isn't exactly going to encourage them to learn.Listen stop being half a friggin fag and as SOON as they REPLY YOU REPLY "Hey. I really liked your profile. How was your weekend? Do anything fun?
And then ask one or two sentence questions and build up to longer replies....
Jesus H Christ are the lot of you completely socially retarded?!?! I can name a few of you posters that seem like you can just TALK to a person. It's not rocket science,
Fvck the DJ ninja so suave smooth tactics...ACT LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING. Talk like you're just meeting someone and not a "hawt" chick and have a fvcking NORMAL conversation. Sh!t....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sceptre said:Your unprovoked comments are rather hostile and enormously counter-productive, especially to those who are trying to implement your ideas. I respect you for trying to help others on this forum, but calling them fags and retards isn't exactly going to encourage them to learn.
Driving an hour to meet them is fine....IF YOU'RE GOING TO THEIR APARTMENT!Robyn923b said:I scored a number with an hb9 last night!![]()
She's beauuutiful. Light tan skin, Samoan & white mixed with honey-colored eyes, nice lips & smile and a tiiight little body.
This is my first number on POF and one of the few numbers I've gotten since my 2.5 year LTR break-up two months ago. I'm really excited to meet this girl.
The only problem is she lives an hour away, but I'm thinking about meeting in the middle. Comments and thoughts are welcomed!
Here's a pic:
http://i73.photobucket.com/albums/i202/Robyn923b/kvfagx55x5_117897540-2.jpg
She's eighteen; I doubt she has her own place and if she lives with her parents I most likely won't be allowed in her roomf283000 said:Driving an hour to meet them is fine....IF YOU'RE GOING TO THEIR APARTMENT!
I hope you made it a home movie date at her place which is pretty much guaranteed action if she accepts.
I don't know how you can agree to drive an hour for anything besides that. An hour drive just for dinner? coffee? I'd feel robbed if I don't get something in return for driving that far!
In fact you should always pursue this option first. Get them to accept a home movie date at her place or your place.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.