"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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my looks get me again...

King Frodo

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So after what happened the other night, I'm in need of some serious help. Another girl who I have/had feelings for told me that she couldn't see past my looks. I'd say she was a 7.5, and I'm like a 2 or 3. Later in the night she told me that the kind of guy I am is perfect for her and is a real turn on. Damn, any suggestions?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well...

Well K.F, it doesn't seem like you need that much help. The girl has given you an IOI by telling you that "you're the guy for her". Although you may see yourself as a 2 or 3, she obviously doesn't or she wouldn't have told you that you turn her on. The only thing that you have to do now is keep your head on straight. Treat her like she's just another girl, make yourself a challenge and she'll be fiending. That's what I do.
 
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King Frodo said:
So after what happened the other night, I'm in need of some serious help. Another girl who I have/had feelings for told me that she couldn't see past my looks. I'd say she was a 7.5, and I'm like a 2 or 3. Later in the night she told me that the kind of guy I am is perfect for her and is a real turn on. Damn, any suggestions?
What is it about your appearance that she finds unnattractive?
 

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sounds like she was trying to soften the blow after feeling like she'd harshed you.

ok. first - IT DOESN'T MATTER THAT YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER.

it doesn't matter what you want. it only matters what you can get them to want.

so get over her. get out of that relationship and don't let yourself get into a "friendship" like that again.

never be in a situation where you're wondering if she "likes you" or not. no more.

always always always SIMPLY ASK THEM OUT. if they say no, you get an IMMEDIATE answer and you can move on without getting invested.
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why are you a 2 or 3? describe.

there are LOTS OF THINGS that one can do. 2 or 3 is pretty bad and it means that you're not trying. why stay that way if you can change?

some here say that looks don't matter. i'm not of that opinion. unless you're filthy rich, famous, powerful, etc.

take thom yorke from radiohead, the guy is skinny as a rail and has a lazy eye but he can still score (married now)... lots of disenfranchised men look to him as their hero and idol and say, well if thom can pull it off with what he's got to work with, then i won't change... i can do it too!

but the critical difference is that he's a FAMOUS MUSICIAN!!!

(this is a mistake that many nerd guys make when they idolize famous nerds who succeed with chicks. they overlook the overriding factor that they're FAMOUS!)

if you're a regular schlub, you gotta do what you can to make the rest of the package as presentable as possible!

delta
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Roffl! 2 or 3. Hire or prostitute or attract girls with your money.
 

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Ok I read this.
What is the problem?
She's into you.
 
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