"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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my looks get me again...

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So after what happened the other night, I'm in need of some serious help. Another girl who I have/had feelings for told me that she couldn't see past my looks. I'd say she was a 7.5, and I'm like a 2 or 3. Later in the night she told me that the kind of guy I am is perfect for her and is a real turn on. Damn, any suggestions?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well...

Well K.F, it doesn't seem like you need that much help. The girl has given you an IOI by telling you that "you're the guy for her". Although you may see yourself as a 2 or 3, she obviously doesn't or she wouldn't have told you that you turn her on. The only thing that you have to do now is keep your head on straight. Treat her like she's just another girl, make yourself a challenge and she'll be fiending. That's what I do.
 
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King Frodo said:
So after what happened the other night, I'm in need of some serious help. Another girl who I have/had feelings for told me that she couldn't see past my looks. I'd say she was a 7.5, and I'm like a 2 or 3. Later in the night she told me that the kind of guy I am is perfect for her and is a real turn on. Damn, any suggestions?
What is it about your appearance that she finds unnattractive?
 

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sounds like she was trying to soften the blow after feeling like she'd harshed you.

ok. first - IT DOESN'T MATTER THAT YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER.

it doesn't matter what you want. it only matters what you can get them to want.

so get over her. get out of that relationship and don't let yourself get into a "friendship" like that again.

never be in a situation where you're wondering if she "likes you" or not. no more.

always always always SIMPLY ASK THEM OUT. if they say no, you get an IMMEDIATE answer and you can move on without getting invested.
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why are you a 2 or 3? describe.

there are LOTS OF THINGS that one can do. 2 or 3 is pretty bad and it means that you're not trying. why stay that way if you can change?

some here say that looks don't matter. i'm not of that opinion. unless you're filthy rich, famous, powerful, etc.

take thom yorke from radiohead, the guy is skinny as a rail and has a lazy eye but he can still score (married now)... lots of disenfranchised men look to him as their hero and idol and say, well if thom can pull it off with what he's got to work with, then i won't change... i can do it too!

but the critical difference is that he's a FAMOUS MUSICIAN!!!

(this is a mistake that many nerd guys make when they idolize famous nerds who succeed with chicks. they overlook the overriding factor that they're FAMOUS!)

if you're a regular schlub, you gotta do what you can to make the rest of the package as presentable as possible!

delta
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Roffl! 2 or 3. Hire or prostitute or attract girls with your money.
 

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Ok I read this.
What is the problem?
She's into you.
 
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