My last thread on this matter...

[mrpickles666]

I know my inner game is far from DJ. But I'm working on it. But I just want to ask one more time about how I handled my last flake. The day of, she said "she felt weird coming to my house" I deflected the flake by saying "didn't think you were coming. I already made plans." She gave me a bs complicated make no sense excuse to which I replied "don't worry about it. Let me know when you want to get together" and went NC (3 days so far). Did i communicate unworthiness when I said "didn't think you were coming?" I mean, I don't know. She usually confirms and she got back to me late so I was frontin' like I just up and made plans for the sake of value. I'm not thrilled with the "didn't think you were coming" either way but did that statement alone pedestal her? If you want to reply to this, I dont want to hear about the low interest level because it wasn't fvcking low, I lowered it with oneitis and by not letting her initiate contact more than me. If you want to reply, analyze my statements and the likelihood that NC could raise respect/attraction in the long run. IVE MOVED ON AND IM DATING OTHER GIRLS OK. No more of that captain obvious sh1t either.

 

[Starwolf]

you should go AFC.

Call her, tell her you miss her and you would really like to see her.

it's clear that keeping up this whole facade has got you all fvcked up.

so get it over with .. Call her!

goodluck



P.S. if it goes ok give an update
if not..also give an update.

then we can see if going AFC once in a while helps or if it should be avoided at all costs.

 

[logicallefty]

Op I think you handled it acceptability. Now just stay NC and don't dwell on it. If there is any future hope with you and her NC is it, but my gut says you should call this one finished and keep on keeping on.

 

[mrpickles666]

Op I think you handled it acceptability. Now just stay NC and don't dwell on it. If there is any future hope with you and her NC is it, but my gut says you should call this one finished and keep on keeping on.

Well, in essence, NC is calling it finished but also potential remedy for an over pursuer. My situation was created by very subtle mistakes. The frustrating part of it is they were really dumb and easily avoidable on my part. I got more than the time of day from her. But what do you mean by gut feeling?

 

[logicallefty]

Well, in essence, NC is calling it finished but also potential remedy for an over pursuer. My situation was created by very subtle mistakes. The frustrating part of it is they were really dumb and easily avoidable on my part. I got more than the time of day from her. But what do you mean by gut feeling?

Gut feeling = my opinion based on the facts you articulated in your original post

 

[mrpickles666]

For the sake of my insomnia (not because of the situation, I just have insomnia) could you elaborate?

 

[mrpickles666]

Gut feeling = my opinion based on the facts you articulated in your original post

like what specifically in my OP? You think it's less than 50/50?