"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I know my inner game is far from DJ. But I'm working on it. But I just want to ask one more time about how I handled my last flake. The day of, she said "she felt weird coming to my house" I deflected the flake by saying "didn't think you were coming. I already made plans." She gave me a bs complicated make no sense excuse to which I replied "don't worry about it. Let me know when you want to get together" and went NC (3 days so far). Did i communicate unworthiness when I said "didn't think you were coming?" I mean, I don't know. She usually confirms and she got back to me late so I was frontin' like I just up and made plans for the sake of value. I'm not thrilled with the "didn't think you were coming" either way but did that statement alone pedestal her? If you want to reply to this, I dont want to hear about the low interest level because it wasn't fvcking low, I lowered it with oneitis and by not letting her initiate contact more than me. If you want to reply, analyze my statements and the likelihood that NC could raise respect/attraction in the long run. IVE MOVED ON AND IM DATING OTHER GIRLS OK. No more of that captain obvious sh1t either.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you should go AFC.

Call her, tell her you miss her and you would really like to see her.

it's clear that keeping up this whole facade has got you all fvcked up.

so get it over with .. Call her!

:up: goodluck



P.S. if it goes ok give an update
if not..also give an update.

then we can see if going AFC once in a while helps :p or if it should be avoided at all costs.
 
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Op I think you handled it acceptability. Now just stay NC and don't dwell on it. If there is any future hope with you and her NC is it, but my gut says you should call this one finished and keep on keeping on.
 
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logicallefty said:
Op I think you handled it acceptability. Now just stay NC and don't dwell on it. If there is any future hope with you and her NC is it, but my gut says you should call this one finished and keep on keeping on.
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Well, in essence, NC is calling it finished but also potential remedy for an over pursuer. My situation was created by very subtle mistakes. The frustrating part of it is they were really dumb and easily avoidable on my part. I got more than the time of day from her. But what do you mean by gut feeling?
 
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mrpickles666 said:
Well, in essence, NC is calling it finished but also potential remedy for an over pursuer. My situation was created by very subtle mistakes. The frustrating part of it is they were really dumb and easily avoidable on my part. I got more than the time of day from her. But what do you mean by gut feeling?
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Gut feeling = my opinion based on the facts you articulated in your original post
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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For the sake of my insomnia (not because of the situation, I just have insomnia) could you elaborate?
 
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logicallefty said:
Gut feeling = my opinion based on the facts you articulated in your original post
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like what specifically in my OP? You think it's less than 50/50?
 
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