"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My interest in women is fading...

Tantric

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Since ending EVERYTHING with a "certain" girl a few months ago, i really don't have any desire to date. I'm kinda in a zone of just wanting to things for myself, be in control of my life, and i have no interest in women.

At school i still flirt a lot and "play", and even though there are some girls i find attractive or want to get to know better, i don't pursue anything out of school...nor attempt to ask any of them out.

Is that normal?

Seeing a hot, single girl but not wanting to do anything about it? Part of is just tired of them right now...but at the same time think it's kinda dumb.

I get invited out a lot to clubs with friends and stuff, but for some reason i stay away from that too. I kinda just want to do my own thing and don't want to be social.


Is this just some kind of zone i'm in that i should be kicking myself in the a$$ to get out of before it turns into something bigger? Or should i just let it be what it is?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TheInfamousCBear

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Dont force yourself to eat when you arnt even hungry even though there is food on the table...
 

diablo

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It sounds to me like you're depressed - perhaps subconciously. Don't worry, the only thing that you can do for it is take up an activity or focus your energies in other areas. Try bodybuilding, or a sport. Whatever gets you going - with time, you'll be back as good as new. Just don't become an anti-social recluse and you shouldn't have anything you need to become concerned about... and it doesn't sound like that's in danger of happening with your situation.
 

ScrewIt

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i dont think its depression. i think im in a similar situation as Tantric. I feel like my sex drive is low, but then again its probably the fact that i jack off several times a week.

but yea doing my hobbies and what i want seems to be the time killer for me now. i will talk to ppl in school and stuff. But im just not in the mood for dating or anything other than talking. i've grown more laid back and comfortable with myself.

i dont try to hook up with chicks no more, no desire to. But its strangely helping as there are some girls in classes that appear to be interested in me, yet intimidated.

maybe what i really need is some change...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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