"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My interest in women is fading...

Tantric

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Since ending EVERYTHING with a "certain" girl a few months ago, i really don't have any desire to date. I'm kinda in a zone of just wanting to things for myself, be in control of my life, and i have no interest in women.

At school i still flirt a lot and "play", and even though there are some girls i find attractive or want to get to know better, i don't pursue anything out of school...nor attempt to ask any of them out.

Is that normal?

Seeing a hot, single girl but not wanting to do anything about it? Part of is just tired of them right now...but at the same time think it's kinda dumb.

I get invited out a lot to clubs with friends and stuff, but for some reason i stay away from that too. I kinda just want to do my own thing and don't want to be social.


Is this just some kind of zone i'm in that i should be kicking myself in the a$$ to get out of before it turns into something bigger? Or should i just let it be what it is?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheInfamousCBear

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Dont force yourself to eat when you arnt even hungry even though there is food on the table...
 

diablo

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It sounds to me like you're depressed - perhaps subconciously. Don't worry, the only thing that you can do for it is take up an activity or focus your energies in other areas. Try bodybuilding, or a sport. Whatever gets you going - with time, you'll be back as good as new. Just don't become an anti-social recluse and you shouldn't have anything you need to become concerned about... and it doesn't sound like that's in danger of happening with your situation.
 

ScrewIt

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i dont think its depression. i think im in a similar situation as Tantric. I feel like my sex drive is low, but then again its probably the fact that i jack off several times a week.

but yea doing my hobbies and what i want seems to be the time killer for me now. i will talk to ppl in school and stuff. But im just not in the mood for dating or anything other than talking. i've grown more laid back and comfortable with myself.

i dont try to hook up with chicks no more, no desire to. But its strangely helping as there are some girls in classes that appear to be interested in me, yet intimidated.

maybe what i really need is some change...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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