"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You seemed to spend the night how many AFC's spent the night, alone. I know I'm no "pro" but I'd say only tell your "beotch" you have business if you actually have business..Otherwise what's wrong with spending some time with her?
Thats just my take on it. Anyways carry on Commando.
Lishy
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your girl has to miss you. You cant be always acceptable.
But you dont have to turn everything down either.
For example if she wants to go to the cinema maker her go to the pub with you
If she wants to go to the disco and you want to just go with her already but make sure to enjoy yourself.
To the online thingie: some DJs here tend to say that being online and talking is good. For me its an absolute no-go if you cant get her to the phone.
When you are online you tend to be always on ( for example when u are in sosuave) or you tend to talk with her more than you would on the phone. That means you are talking about topics you could talk about in reallife and when you get her to a meeting in reallife ( when you didnt end up in the friends zone already) you have nothing to talk about.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm still navagating it a bit and yes there are many different attitudes and perspectives. All flavors.
If my language was offensive to some I apologize but I was emulating (tongue in cheek) some of what I have seen here. Not all, but some and so I had some fun.
It is true that in the beginning of getting to know someone backing off a bit to (let them miss you a little) can help. It builds attraction and shows that you have your own life and things to do. Not too many people want to spend every moment together and often you see people get their fill of each other too quickly and then there is nothing left. Enryu makes some good suggestions.
I know you will all miss me, but I got to roll. Somebody is making me a sandwich.
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HOMBRE said:
Coming over is a different story. How's that DJ bible working for you? Yeah I already know, you love the men that follow it!
Ahaha, funny.My Name is Nobody said:
And no, I wouldn't go near a man who subscribes to most of that nonsense. Some of it is ok, but after I read the thing about being a "prick for a day" you lost me. No class. I like my mens to have CLASS!
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HOMBRE said:Ahaha, funny.
And no, I wouldn't go near a man who subscribes to most of that nonsense. Some of it is ok, but after I read the thing about being a "prick for a day" you lost me. No class. I like my mens to have CLASS!
You're married.
NEXT!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.