"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You seemed to spend the night how many AFC's spent the night, alone. I know I'm no "pro" but I'd say only tell your "beotch" you have business if you actually have business..Otherwise what's wrong with spending some time with her?
Thats just my take on it. Anyways carry on Commando.
Lishy
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your girl has to miss you. You cant be always acceptable.
But you dont have to turn everything down either.
For example if she wants to go to the cinema maker her go to the pub with you
If she wants to go to the disco and you want to just go with her already but make sure to enjoy yourself.
To the online thingie: some DJs here tend to say that being online and talking is good. For me its an absolute no-go if you cant get her to the phone.
When you are online you tend to be always on ( for example when u are in sosuave) or you tend to talk with her more than you would on the phone. That means you are talking about topics you could talk about in reallife and when you get her to a meeting in reallife ( when you didnt end up in the friends zone already) you have nothing to talk about.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm still navagating it a bit and yes there are many different attitudes and perspectives. All flavors.
If my language was offensive to some I apologize but I was emulating (tongue in cheek) some of what I have seen here. Not all, but some and so I had some fun.
It is true that in the beginning of getting to know someone backing off a bit to (let them miss you a little) can help. It builds attraction and shows that you have your own life and things to do. Not too many people want to spend every moment together and often you see people get their fill of each other too quickly and then there is nothing left. Enryu makes some good suggestions.
I know you will all miss me, but I got to roll. Somebody is making me a sandwich.
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HOMBRE said:
Coming over is a different story. How's that DJ bible working for you? Yeah I already know, you love the men that follow it!
Ahaha, funny.My Name is Nobody said:
And no, I wouldn't go near a man who subscribes to most of that nonsense. Some of it is ok, but after I read the thing about being a "prick for a day" you lost me. No class. I like my mens to have CLASS!
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HOMBRE said:Ahaha, funny.
And no, I wouldn't go near a man who subscribes to most of that nonsense. Some of it is ok, but after I read the thing about being a "prick for a day" you lost me. No class. I like my mens to have CLASS!
You're married.
NEXT!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.