"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crazy Asian

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ok i know that looks aren't as important as all the other traits, but hear me out. I have an abnormally large head and flat face/nose (i'm azn). and i didn't even know about it until some kids in elementary school started to make fun of me for it. i don't think i'd be this self conscience about it if they didn't start making fun of me. but i did realize that my head was huge. and i think that no matter how "charming" i'll be, my head makes me seem sorta like a freak? (pains me to say that )

i dunno where i got hits but i found this quote, and i think you guys are underestimating the power of looks :
"if she finds you good-looking, there is nothing much you can do wrong on a first date"
"if she doesn't find you good-looking, there is nothing much you can do right on a first date"

anyway... wut should i do about it? i mean, i don't wan to come off as that annoying kid that bugs everyone. i'll post a pic up if any of you really want to see me..... i mean i don't think i look too bad, but i just hate how i'm such a freak all the time ya know?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BBX

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Dude, fuk it. If you start taking risks, talking to girls, gaining confidnce and popularity, you will be THE MAN. Trust me on this, this ugly ass guy in my school, he looks like hes 40, going bald, just a weird face overall, total ass h0le, 100% confidence. Hot girls hit on him. He's a ugly fuk. Gain status by gaining confidence by taking risks and that dream isn't too far off.
 

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you know your wasting your time letting your insecurities stop you right? stop doubting and just do it. who cares. have fun. be a man. whatever.

While your doubting yourself, the other DJ's are making progress.
 

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Looks play a part, and I will say that you may not have girls throw themselves at you. Being confident and secure, however, will make it a LOT easier to win them over.

Hot girls date goofy looking guys all the time.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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i'd hate to be a d1ck to ChaseLachey

but

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1133208&postcount=4

thats him... and he seems confident... he even has a girl too.

j/w... but do you have a picture?!

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besides you're asian... get over it... most asians would say their head isnt in proportion like a white persons, and who said white people's heads are in proportion? (well besides being the minority to white people)

i'm asian and i'm totally comfortable with myself now. white girls dig me... i carry myself well... they like it. i like it.

get over yourself and accept it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Shocker

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how do you propose to change your looks?

Right, so don't worry about it.
 

nicenomore

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why focus on your negatives?????

focus on your strenghts and project them...instead of thiking about your insecurities

Shocker rightly said:

You can do nothing about it , so fuk it.

Just dress up well and groom yourself :thats it

I had a major insecurity when I was young that I am not good looking and girls would hate me. Slowly and steadily though , talking to them, going out made me more confident of my looks.
 

Berlex

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start working out so your body is more proportioned
 

Crazy Asian

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i swim 2 hours every day and workout mon, wed, and fri. i'm getting stronger and my muscles are more defined, but i'm not getting bigger. am i not eating enough or wut?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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