"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My haunting past of my nerdiness?

marines_hooorah

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Allright lets just say that I discovered this site a little late in 8th grade, so the number of girls Ive gotton in my freshman year of high school is waaaaaay more than my entire middle school middle school. Anyway, a lot of the girls I went to school with still pop p in my lives. They still think that im a nerd, and i swear that all of their friends think it too(they give me that this kid doesnt act like a nerd look) So I guess my main problem is if I should a) screw em and move on theres plenty of fish out there b) prove them that im not the computer programming, master chief loving kid from the middle school days c) insert whatever else here. Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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john paul

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I use to have this problem of being known as the shy nerd. When people noticed i changed and asked me why i wasnt shy and didnt come off as a nerd anymore i just said i had grown up.

I think thats the best reply when your asked why you dont come off as such a nerd anymore. People will start to know you as a cool guy instead of your old reputation even if they knew you when you were a nerd.
 

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you know you still love masterchief

anyways, i'd just be the new you. that's all you gotta do. dont worry about impressing those b1tches if they come they come. if they don't, they don't
 

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Option A is your best bet. If girls and other people didn't respect you for who you are, no matter if your a "nerd" or not, they aren't worth your time. Invest friendships in people that matter.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have the same problem and scenario as you. Just don't worry about them, wont be a problem when you leave high school anyway. Do your thing, don't worry about them and they might eventually change their minds. If not then too bad, their loss, they can get fcked!
 

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I agree with all the above posters telling you go to with option A. I used to be a nerd myself but was fairly sociable and nowadays I have gotten around with quite a few girls that are friends too lol. Anyways, if they don't want to be your friend because of your past, just ignore their lame remarks and do your own thing, find other people that will respect you. The kinds of people that judge you from your past behaviors are moronic to still think you are the same person and you definitely don't want to become friends with those losers.
 

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