"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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My haunting past of my nerdiness?

marines_hooorah

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Allright lets just say that I discovered this site a little late in 8th grade, so the number of girls Ive gotton in my freshman year of high school is waaaaaay more than my entire middle school middle school. Anyway, a lot of the girls I went to school with still pop p in my lives. They still think that im a nerd, and i swear that all of their friends think it too(they give me that this kid doesnt act like a nerd look) So I guess my main problem is if I should a) screw em and move on theres plenty of fish out there b) prove them that im not the computer programming, master chief loving kid from the middle school days c) insert whatever else here. Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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john paul

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I use to have this problem of being known as the shy nerd. When people noticed i changed and asked me why i wasnt shy and didnt come off as a nerd anymore i just said i had grown up.

I think thats the best reply when your asked why you dont come off as such a nerd anymore. People will start to know you as a cool guy instead of your old reputation even if they knew you when you were a nerd.
 

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you know you still love masterchief

anyways, i'd just be the new you. that's all you gotta do. dont worry about impressing those b1tches if they come they come. if they don't, they don't
 

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Option A is your best bet. If girls and other people didn't respect you for who you are, no matter if your a "nerd" or not, they aren't worth your time. Invest friendships in people that matter.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have the same problem and scenario as you. Just don't worry about them, wont be a problem when you leave high school anyway. Do your thing, don't worry about them and they might eventually change their minds. If not then too bad, their loss, they can get fcked!
 

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I agree with all the above posters telling you go to with option A. I used to be a nerd myself but was fairly sociable and nowadays I have gotten around with quite a few girls that are friends too lol. Anyways, if they don't want to be your friend because of your past, just ignore their lame remarks and do your own thing, find other people that will respect you. The kinds of people that judge you from your past behaviors are moronic to still think you are the same person and you definitely don't want to become friends with those losers.
 

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