"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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my girlfriend's school work

fillme

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I been dating this chinese girl for more than one month now. she just finished school n joined the same university that i went to. I am her first boyfriend. That is, she has never had a boyfriend before me.

Everything is working fine. She is totally dedicated to me and all.

But now she wants me to help her with her university projects. She did a little bit of her project and was complaining over the phone that she cannot do this n cannot do that. So she came over and I did the rest of the project for her, showed her how to submit and all that. Now, she is coming over again tomorrow for me to help her with another of her projects. Her attitude is NOT "do my project, be my slave". Her attitude is "please help me doing this...I want to learn (from you)".

What do I get in return? She treats me (takes me to dinner and lunch) at fancy restaurants.

Am I doing the right thing by helping her and listening to all her complaining?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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diplomatic_lies

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This is my patented method of working out whether doing favours for a girl is worth it (TM)

1) Calculate the amount of time you spend helping her

2) Calculate the cost of the stuff she does for you (ie. taking you out to fancy restaurants)

3) Work out your average freelance salary, which might be 150-200% of your regular salary

4) If her rewards are higher than your time, then yes, its worth it.
 

Skullcrusher

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you mentioned her ethnicity, are you telling all of us that you are dating some exotic creature?

you helping her out when she asks, she telling you she's never had a boyfriend before, she pays you with with food...

you're not the alpha, she is, and she's a manipulative one too which you suspect already.
 

Donald Kaufman

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Tell her that being repayed with food is getting boring and you want her to be more creative. Make it not too serious and see what she does.

If she gets offended she is either using you or isn't much fun anyway.

If she does go along with it she might be using you but at least she's fun.

:D
 

California Love

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Women come over asking for help because they want you to get in their pants. After you are finished helping in some area, you should initiate "helping" in others.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yunghova35

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Originally posted by fillme
I been dating this chinese girl for more than one month now. she just finished school n joined the same university that i went to. I am her first boyfriend. That is, she has never had a boyfriend before me.

Everything is working fine. She is totally dedicated to me and all.

But now she wants me to help her with her university projects. She did a little bit of her project and was complaining over the phone that she cannot do this n cannot do that. So she came over and I did the rest of the project for her, showed her how to submit and all that. Now, she is coming over again tomorrow for me to help her with another of her projects. Her attitude is NOT "do my project, be my slave". Her attitude is "please help me doing this...I want to learn (from you)".

What do I get in return? She treats me (takes me to dinner and lunch) at fancy restaurants.

Am I doing the right thing by helping her and listening to all her complaining?
MALE/ FEMALE I'm just goin to tell you just like your parents told you "if you do it FOR her she'll never learn"
 
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