"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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my girlfriend's school work

fillme

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I been dating this chinese girl for more than one month now. she just finished school n joined the same university that i went to. I am her first boyfriend. That is, she has never had a boyfriend before me.

Everything is working fine. She is totally dedicated to me and all.

But now she wants me to help her with her university projects. She did a little bit of her project and was complaining over the phone that she cannot do this n cannot do that. So she came over and I did the rest of the project for her, showed her how to submit and all that. Now, she is coming over again tomorrow for me to help her with another of her projects. Her attitude is NOT "do my project, be my slave". Her attitude is "please help me doing this...I want to learn (from you)".

What do I get in return? She treats me (takes me to dinner and lunch) at fancy restaurants.

Am I doing the right thing by helping her and listening to all her complaining?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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diplomatic_lies

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This is my patented method of working out whether doing favours for a girl is worth it (TM)

1) Calculate the amount of time you spend helping her

2) Calculate the cost of the stuff she does for you (ie. taking you out to fancy restaurants)

3) Work out your average freelance salary, which might be 150-200% of your regular salary

4) If her rewards are higher than your time, then yes, its worth it.
 

Skullcrusher

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you mentioned her ethnicity, are you telling all of us that you are dating some exotic creature?

you helping her out when she asks, she telling you she's never had a boyfriend before, she pays you with with food...

you're not the alpha, she is, and she's a manipulative one too which you suspect already.
 

Donald Kaufman

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Tell her that being repayed with food is getting boring and you want her to be more creative. Make it not too serious and see what she does.

If she gets offended she is either using you or isn't much fun anyway.

If she does go along with it she might be using you but at least she's fun.

:D
 

California Love

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Women come over asking for help because they want you to get in their pants. After you are finished helping in some area, you should initiate "helping" in others.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by fillme
I been dating this chinese girl for more than one month now. she just finished school n joined the same university that i went to. I am her first boyfriend. That is, she has never had a boyfriend before me.

Everything is working fine. She is totally dedicated to me and all.

But now she wants me to help her with her university projects. She did a little bit of her project and was complaining over the phone that she cannot do this n cannot do that. So she came over and I did the rest of the project for her, showed her how to submit and all that. Now, she is coming over again tomorrow for me to help her with another of her projects. Her attitude is NOT "do my project, be my slave". Her attitude is "please help me doing this...I want to learn (from you)".

What do I get in return? She treats me (takes me to dinner and lunch) at fancy restaurants.

Am I doing the right thing by helping her and listening to all her complaining?
MALE/ FEMALE I'm just goin to tell you just like your parents told you "if you do it FOR her she'll never learn"
 
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