Recently entered into a relationship with my main plate of ten months. Every time we hang out with her female friends they flirt and hit on me. We we’re at a party and her good friend said to me “ See, you don’t need your gf, I can cook for you” I responded with, I’m not sure, my girl makes a great steak but if you two want to have a cook off, go right ahead. Gf asked me if she should say something to them, especially one of her friends who blatantly disrespects her. One of them even tried making out with me. I told her, you do what you want. Some sort of **** test or what?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My girlfriends friends are constantly hitting on me
- Thread starter Mazer
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
zekko
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And the problem is...? But seriously:
Whenever guys on the forum complain about something like this, I always wonder if the girls are really "hitting on" him, or if the guy's ego is out of control. Obviously in your situation, if the girl tried to make out with you, that's not the case here. It's not unusual for there to be some sexual tension and some mild flirting between people of opposite genders, even if they are friends of your girlfriend. In fact, sometimes someone can catch feelings for the wrong person, and it can be a real mess. That's why opposite sex friends are complicated.
If they're going to have a cook off, maybe they should make something more challenging than a steak. It's great that they can cook though, a lot of young women don't know how these days.
Whenever guys on the forum complain about something like this, I always wonder if the girls are really "hitting on" him, or if the guy's ego is out of control. Obviously in your situation, if the girl tried to make out with you, that's not the case here. It's not unusual for there to be some sexual tension and some mild flirting between people of opposite genders, even if they are friends of your girlfriend. In fact, sometimes someone can catch feelings for the wrong person, and it can be a real mess. That's why opposite sex friends are complicated.
DEEZEDBRAH
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You dun goofed.
You and your girlfriend are at a party. Your girlfriend is talking to some of her friends with a drink in her hand 10 feet away. Her best friend comes up to you and says she would like to put her tongue down your throat, and you shrug and say "do what you want?"
LOL. Come on man. How old are you?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is very normal and if a man don't get hit on by his girlfriend bff's then something is seriously not right - of which you should take it as an indication that you're otw.
backseatjuan
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If could be her sh1t test, especially if this hasn't happened before and now all of a sudden. You pass it by maintaining your frame, they are your girlfriend's friend's, you remain friendly, flirt back and sh1t, after all you don't want to make it too easy for them, but at the end of the day when they go to far you stop them and put things into perspective by saying I have a wonderful girlfriend and at this point in my life I want a serious relationship with her, I am not a cheater, we can be friends with you, but nothing more.