"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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my girlfriend just asked me why does she always have to say "i love you" first.

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what should i say? i dont really want to start saying it to her first but the fact that i dont seems to be annoying her quite a bit lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do you love her? If you do, why not say it once? Why does everything have to be about power and control in a relationship?
 

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idk i mean i like her alot but years ago i was in a relationship where i was the one who was way too into the relationship and eventually she got bored and left me. i dont want that to happen again.
 

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absolutely do not do it because she's asking you too...
that's supplicant...

"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"

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you need to address her emotional need here...

what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...

you just need to convey that you DO love her...
 

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bukowski_merit said:
absolutely do not do it because she's asking you too...
that's supplicant...

"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"

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you need to address her emotional need here...

what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...
interesting, i didnt even think of it that way
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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San Jose California said:
Saying "i love you" to a girl just seems awkward and not fun.
i agree, "love you too" is my usual response, but really saying "i love you" is very uncomfortable.
 

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Usually in this case i will simply tell her 'bt you know i do' if she insist on the wordings i go off explaining to her how the words does nt convey my true feeling since i believe that this generation has abused those 3 cute words a great deal and she would go all 'yeah thats true'.
That gets me off the hook AT ALL TIMES!! Try it n see..
 
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