sebastian11
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what should i say? i dont really want to start saying it to her first but the fact that i dont seems to be annoying her quite a bit lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
my girlfriend just asked me why does she always have to say "i love you" first.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sebastian11
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idk i mean i like her alot but years ago i was in a relationship where i was the one who was way too into the relationship and eventually she got bored and left me. i dont want that to happen again.
bukowski_merit
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absolutely do not do it because she's asking you too...
that's supplicant...
"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"
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you need to address her emotional need here...
what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...
you just need to convey that you DO love her...
that's supplicant...
"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"
---
you need to address her emotional need here...
what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...
you just need to convey that you DO love her...
sebastian11
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interesting, i didnt even think of it that waybukowski_merit said:absolutely do not do it because she's asking you too...
that's supplicant...
"why don't you say you love me first ever?"
(a supplicant mans answer; first chance her gets) "I love you"
---
you need to address her emotional need here...
what she's really wondering is if you really love her period...
she's finding a convenient way to ask this by turning it around as if it's about who says what first... it's not...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
sebastian11
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i agree, "love you too" is my usual response, but really saying "i love you" is very uncomfortable.San Jose California said:Saying "i love you" to a girl just seems awkward and not fun.
Usually in this case i will simply tell her 'bt you know i do' if she insist on the wordings i go off explaining to her how the words does nt convey my true feeling since i believe that this generation has abused those 3 cute words a great deal and she would go all 'yeah thats true'.
That gets me off the hook AT ALL TIMES!! Try it n see..
That gets me off the hook AT ALL TIMES!! Try it n see..