My girlfriend is out drinking with her hoe friend

[Bigpapa]

@Murk at the end of the day what is your problem ?

she went out with her friend but all the time kept in touch with you , telling you what she does and stuff like that . More or less it was her way of saying “ I am out , but thinking of you “

if she would just disappear and only hear from her in the morning , then yeah you would have an actual reason to be mad on her

you are over reacting at the moment and this will only destroy your relationship . Now she knows your weak spot and every time you will annoy her , she will go out with her friends and if she will do it enough time she will also cheat

the only way to deal with this would have been to be cool with it , and in the moment you felt that she is pushing the line to downgrade her to a fwb position

anything else is a woman behavior

well done , you played yourself

 

[Bigpapa]

Move, she wants to move
But you're hogging her, you're guarding her
She wants to move (she wants to move)
She wants to move (she wants to move)
But you're hogging her, you're guarding her (damn)
Mister! Look at your girl, she loves it
(Look at her) I can see it in her eyes
She (come here babe) hopes this lasts forever, hey
Her off beat dance makes me fantasize
(Her curves) she's sexy!
Her ass is a spaceship I want to ride
(Her ass) she's sexy!

 

[LiveYourDream]

Hi Murk, Its been a while for me. If I understand correctly you are maybe speaking of S? If so, I believe she’s seen you through high times and some rough times too. In my view, aware of some history, she’s not simply some plate that you kick out and ghost with zero emotional and life impact, to yourself. I understand that. I hear that you are aware of that and thus wanting to take that particular step, when it and the fallout can best be handled. I hear that your priority is to get the 150K job completed and doing so requires your 100% clear focus.

I hear that is a huge part of why now is not the time to turn your personal and home life upside down. I understood that’s why you posted to vent some steam off for the moment, so you can maintain your focus on what ultimately matters most to you right now.

I also heard that you are not drinking and not smoking. That’s huge. I think setting yourself up to transition apart from S, as best one could, given your history with her, includes looking out for yourself so as to not fall off and get lost into drugs, alcohol, and smoking.

You’ve come so so far Murk! You have lots to be proud of! What I heard in your post was your clarity and your priorities. You are clear you and she are together as some sort of arrangement and she’s not going to be a woman you can respect enough to be considered a potential wife or the mother of your children. I suspect there is/was great disappointment in that realization. It’s a blessing that you know now, so you can choose a different woman, for that stage of your life.

I hear that your priorities are your business and your health and well-being. I understand that includes not disrupting your status quo at home, until you’ve finalized this 150K deal and you are best prepared to move through the fallout of asking her/S to leave. I hear you on that plan. I get it.

Your choosing to respond decisively and when the timing is truly right for you, speaks volumes.

Congrats on your business Murk. Congrats on being clear of alcohol and smoking. Congrats on this 150K deal almost done. Congrats on your clarity to respond to this situation with patience rather than reactivity, knowing your priorities will best be served by waiting a little longer. That shows how much you have grown too. And, I hope you don’t mind me saying, your mom would be proud of you!

Keep your focus! You got this Murk! I’m rooting you on!

 

[Macadellic]

Every man in a relationship out there says to himself
“Not my girl”

Yet I have f/cked women in relationships that are someone’s gf or wife on her one and only night out of the year. I have even been there right next to her as she says “shhh he’s calling” as she answers.

I’m sure you have nothing to worry about.
Your girl wouldn’t do such a thing.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

 

[soulforge]

If the woman will cheat, she will find the way to cheat anyways, you can pretend to have her a on a leash 24/7 like a dog.

Maybe she won't cheat in the club, but the next day when she's not with her bf she will have another orbiter, and if she's not happy with the guy she will invite the orbiter, nobody knows.

They key thing is that she's in the club drinking, its that she went without telling him.

If I had a very expensive car with the absolute best locking system, very difficult to break into... Would I leave it parked in the hood so people can take multiple attempts at breaking into to? No

Obviously the chance or probability of your girl cheating is there, however it's about limiting those chances.. lowering that ability.

As I stated before.. your girlfriend might be LOYAL as fuk.. However while INTOXICATED & lowered inhibitions & hypergomy, the chances of her getting smashed by Chad in the club toilets are pretty high.. Even of she did not want to do it.

Many many woman fuk a guy intoxicated and regret it in the morning. The walk of shame is real.

INTOXICATION is real.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

@Murk at the end of the day what is your problem ?

she went out with her friend but all the time kept in touch with you , telling you what she does and stuff like that . More or less it was her way of saying “ I am out , but thinking of you “

if she would just disappear and only hear from her in the morning , then yeah you would have an actual reason to be mad on her

you are over reacting at the moment and this will only destroy your relationship . Now she knows your weak spot and every time you will annoy her , she will go out with her friends and if she will do it enough time she will also cheat

the only way to deal with this would have been to be cool with it , and in the moment you felt that she is pushing the line to downgrade her to a fwb position

anything else is a woman behavior

well done , you played yourself

Probably Im off my rocker by saying this but that's some nonsense big dawg.

Whats next.. homegirl makes this a ritual habit of having bar missions every other weekend till the Am ?

Any girl who exposes herself in late night open environments especially with slvtty company and alcohol stimulation wants to check out the menu of cvckfest in there and be peeped out. She is being receptive to the glances and attention. Vintage sosuave sh!t from time of immemorial

Dude should at least put his foot down stoically and talk to her saying less but in a civil manner.

" If you will go to bars especially past midnight, well the less I will care about you"


I personally don't date girls who be going to bars. The very few smoothest relationships I have had were girls who went to go eat at restaurants and have coffee with their homegirl but not going bar hoppin like they single.

Once you lock in a LTR that respects you, she will not go to bars till past 12am especially with a wing hve. She will atleast have the common courtesy to tell you and even then she is a liability to me now if she wants to keep up with that sh!t.

If she hesitates between me or the bar and her hve azz friends, then dont choose me.
Im already walking little mama I tell her.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

 

[Velasco]

She is being receptive to the glances and attention

Yeah and if she's hot she'll get alot of it. While you end up going home empty handed thinking you actually had a shot with her. Maybe you'll wake up the next day making a post asking what you could have done differently to get her lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She told me on Thursday she's going out with her friend to the theatre on Saturday (today). She left my house this afternnon to go home saying "have a good weekend". I take that to mean I won't be seeing her for a while which I'm happy about. She sends me a picture in the theatre at 8pm then texts me it was good @ 10pm.

I just see her online on WhatsApp at 1am and she sees me come online and messages: "Hello baby... we still out having drinks" I asked how she's getting home "we gonna have to get cab"

I'm not really a possessive type but I don't really have my girlfriends going out drinking without me knowing, on Saturday night at a ****tail bar in central London, without me.

How much am I supposed to care about something like this? I feel aggrieved, I want to confront her tomorrow but I also know it's probably not worth it as I want to leave her anyway.

Is this the same chick you wanted to dump a few months ago?

Not sure why you are still wasting your time with her.

Also, she apparently can't text in proper sentences which is annoying AF to me so that would have been enough to dump her for me hahaha

 

[member160292]

I hear you on this... However when it comes to clubs/bars/alcohol, there is NO such thing as mutual TRUST

The set/up environment club/bar is the opposite of the type of environment where you can uphold values such as trust & loyalty.

The entire set up of a club is pretty much enabled to make & encourage sex to happen.

Your girlfriend is in an environment where 99% of men who will literally do ANYTHING to get laid.

The very act of dancing is actually sexual.. Tell me you never seen a hot girl dancing & your dik didn't get hard lol

Add to the mix alcohol, which absolutely lowers inhibitions & makes you act and do things that you normally wouldn't do.

Even loud music, has been known to lower inhibitions.

Then you have the hypergomy problem.. There are dudes in that club, who are taller than you, more muscular than you, more attractive than you, have much better game than you.

Even if a girl wanted to be loyal & trustworthy for her man... In that environment anything could and can happen. Many times it's out of her hands...

The music, being intoxicated, dozens of diks being waved at your girlfriend it's simply a matter of time till she tries out another option, or she makes a mistake & gets smashed in the club toilets by Chad.

This sounds insecure as fvck

 

[soulforge]

This sounds insecure as fvck

You mean it sounds logical as fuk?

Please refute how alcohol does not intoxicate you & influence behaviour in you that you normally (sober) might not do?

Please show me the science where it proves alcohol does not lower inhibitions. Hmmm

 

[Murk]

@Murk at the end of the day what is your problem ?

she went out with her friend but all the time kept in touch with you , telling you what she does and stuff like that . More or less it was her way of saying “ I am out , but thinking of you “

if she would just disappear and only hear from her in the morning , then yeah you would have an actual reason to be mad on her

you are over reacting at the moment and this will only destroy your relationship . Now she knows your weak spot and every time you will annoy her , she will go out with her friends and if she will do it enough time she will also cheat

the only way to deal with this would have been to be cool with it , and in the moment you felt that she is pushing the line to downgrade her to a fwb position

anything else is a woman behavior

well done , you played yourself

I totally agree, I even said on here I would ignore it. Then she called me and I was kinda cold and hung up, then she blasted me on whatsapp about "you've been intolerable for weeks and I'm only trying to help you" - I want to say she drew the fight out of me, but really I am just not in control of my emotions enough to remain stoic. I really need to work on this, my emotions always override.

 

[Murk]

Hi Murk, Its been a while for me. If I understand correctly you are maybe speaking of S? If so, I believe she’s seen you through high times and some rough times too. In my view, aware of some history, she’s not simply some plate that you kick out and ghost with zero emotional and life impact, to yourself. I understand that. I hear that you are aware of that and thus wanting to take that particular step, when it and the fallout can best be handled. I hear that your priority is to get the 150K job completed and doing so requires your 100% clear focus.

I hear that is a huge part of why now is not the time to turn your personal and home life upside down. I understood that’s why you posted to vent some steam off for the moment, so you can maintain your focus on what ultimately matters most to you right now.

I also heard that you are not drinking and not smoking. That’s huge. I think setting yourself up to transition apart from S, as best one could, given your history with her, includes looking out for yourself so as to not fall off and get lost into drugs, alcohol, and smoking.

You’ve come so so far Murk! You have lots to be proud of! What I heard in your post was your clarity and your priorities. You are clear you and she are together as some sort of arrangement and she’s not going to be a woman you can respect enough to be considered a potential wife or the mother of your children. I suspect there is/was great disappointment in that realization. It’s a blessing that you know now, so you can choose a different woman, for that stage of your life.

I hear that your priorities are your business and your health and well-being. I understand that includes not disrupting your status quo at home, until you’ve finalized this 150K deal and you are best prepared to move through the fallout of asking her/S to leave. I hear you on that plan. I get it.

Your choosing to respond decisively and when the timing is truly right for you, speaks volumes.

Congrats on your business Murk. Congrats on being clear of alcohol and smoking. Congrats on this 150K deal almost done. Congrats on your clarity to respond to this situation with patience rather than reactivity, knowing your priorities will best be served by waiting a little longer. That shows how much you have grown too. And, I hope you don’t mind me saying, your mom would be proud of you!

Keep your focus! You got this Murk! I’m rooting you on!

Hey LYD! Nice to see you again, yes you hit the mark on everything and I got some goosebumps from your praise, so thank you. Yes I've come a long way from when I first joined the forum 5 years ago, in a dark dark place back then.

Thanks for your kind words and understanding! She would be proud I know it.

Is this the same chick you wanted to dump a few months ago?

Not sure why you are still wasting your time with her.

Also, she apparently can't text in proper sentences which is annoying AF to me so that would have been enough to dump her for me hahaha

Yeah same one, and yes her texting ability does irk me but I've learned that intelligent women are more combative, not sure I want that.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Muslims

Their girls are the biggest *****s, from personal experience

 

[soulforge]

Your personal experience doesn't really count as a whole

Their girls are the biggest *****s, from personal experience

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Your personal experience doesn't really count as a whole

The more you repress them, the wh*rier they get. Female nature.

Travel around EU if you don't believe me. A bunch of Muslim girls fresh off the boat are chasing white d1ck like crazy.

 

[Murk]

The more you repress them, the wh*rier they get. Female nature.

Travel around EU if you don't believe me. A bunch of Muslim girls fresh off the boat are chasing white d1ck like crazy.

That's odd, because there are not many videos online of them getting trains ran on them like other women. Fear of death is a deterrent, always has been.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

ruv just a matter of time till she starts taking those big 12 inch diicks.

Exactly.
Her hoe friend will also highly likely cheer her on too hookup. She probably hates that your GF has a relationship with a god man and she doesn't so she won't stop her..

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Here is a bigger dig down the rabbit hole of the topic btw...