I have a Korean girlfriend whom I met in an international dating blog. I got problems with her in terms of being romantic. Don’t get me wrong; I love her. I like the way she is. I like it when she’s being sweet to me. It’s just that she’s too much. She is into couple shirts, couple rings, couple shoes and a lot more. I’m not into that. It’s fine with me though but not to the extent that we almost look stupid. I find it extremely childish. I hate it everytime she asks me to wear this and that. If I won’t do what she wants, she will stop talking to me the whole day. She’s getting into my nerves. Everytime I tell her about how I feel with those stuff, she will get mad. What should I do with her? Help!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
You have to get her to open up about why she wants to do all of that, and let her express as much as possible while you listen. There will be some emotional reason why she is doing it, let her tell you what it is, and then make her feel like you've understood what she means. Tell her that you feel the same way and then explain how you deal with it (that way putting it into a passive comparison to how she deals with it). She should hopefully feel like you're on the same page now and everything's a-okay. That's the blueprint of what I would do.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Lolz!
Go fishing with your friends, or you will turn into a girl!
Go fishing with your friends, or you will turn into a girl!
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Almost every time I meet up with my girl, we're wearing the same color. I wish I knew how she does this sh!t!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
LOL I wouldn't be surprised. Is that what they carry around in their purses?
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Ranger
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I’m have a little bit of trouble thinking with this.
The Diver
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Man, She's manipulating you to do what she wants, just wear what the hell you want to wear. If you won't stop dancing to her music, this sh*it will get worse.