"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My gf wants me to get tested STDS

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She was a virgin before me.

We've been having sex bareback for almost 6 months

and out of no where she wants me to get tested?


ive had sex with 3 girls before her, condom every time and have no symptoms ever. shes begging me to get tested but i think this is a blatant waste of my time


how do i handle this
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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She probably got an STD from some other guy she's fvcking behind your back and got treated for it and now she's feeling guilty about it and hopes you didn't catch it.

That or you are such a smooth playa she's feeling insecure.

In anycase you just tell her point blank you aren't getting tested and if she doesn't like it there's the door.
 
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nubian-knight said:
She was a virgin before me.

We've been having sex bareback for almost 6 months

and out of no where she wants me to get tested?


ive had sex with 3 girls before her, condom every time and have no symptoms ever. shes begging me to get tested but i think this is a blatant waste of my time


how do i handle this
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Why not just do it. Maybe she saw some pix of a nasty STD online, maybe her cooch has been itchy or something, regardless, there's no harm in both of you getting tested. Small amount of time to ease any worries she may have.
 
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KontrollerX said:
She probably got an STD from some other guy she's fvcking behind your back and got treated for it and now she's feeling guilty about it and hopes you didn't catch it.

That or you are such a smooth playa she's feeling insecure.

In anycase you just tell her point blank you aren't getting tested and if she doesn't like it there's the door.
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I thought that may be the reason, that she picked something up from someone else but then i realized 1) theres been 0 evidence of cheating and 2) she needs to know if she has something for this upcoming vaccine shes getting, which she had mentioned various times before she asked me to get tested. The doctor said getting the vaccine if she has an active or dormant std could be really serious so she wants me and her to get tested


but i really dont have anything, im almost 110% sure


aaa fack
 
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nubian-knight said:
I thought that may be the reason, that she picked something up from someone else but then i realized 1) theres been 0 evidence of cheating and 2) she needs to know if she has something for this upcoming vaccine shes getting, which she had mentioned various times before she asked me to get tested. The doctor said getting the vaccine if she has an active or dormant std could be really serious so she wants me and her to get tested


but i really dont have anything, im almost 110% sure


aaa fack
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Why doesn't she get tested herself??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Go and get tested at the same time. It's fair and honest that you both know what you've got.
 
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BeyondCharm said:
Go and get tested at the same time. It's fair and honest that you both know what you've got.
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Yea i just called her and shes fine with that.

Shes pretty virginal and i think the doctor scaring her about the affects of getting the vaccine with a potential std scared her and since ive had sex before us and she hasnt she was worried.

i straiht up told her its her concern not mine, and wel do it at the same time, she said sure.

done w.e. prolly takes like 5 min anyway
 
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Just get tested, It's not a big deal. I don't know why this is such a big deal for everyone. It's not like they make you wear a scarlet letter. Just curious, but how come you aren't using condoms?
 
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I don't know why this is such a big deal for everyone.
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Nobody wants disease, especially not incurable and lethal ones, which some STDs are.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Maxwell said:
Nobody wants disease, especially not incurable and lethal ones, which some STDs are.
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If you have a disease, not getting it treated is about the worst thing you can do. I've gotten tested twice. Yeah, it was stressful, but both times the results came back negative. The peace of mind was worth it in the end.
 
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J Roc said:
stop having sex bareback!
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Don't be a fvck up.

And never, ever believe that a woman is being honest about their sexual history. In an era of "reborn virgins" and men that don't count, her 0 could very well have a 1 in front of it.
 
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Dont bother getting tested unless you believe you've contracted something. To me, it only brings more stress submitting a test, awaiting the results, and AWHing after your test negative. If you've been playing safe, and nothing arwy has gone on, don't worry about it.
 
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Nothing wrong with getting tested.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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AllInADaysWork said:
Dont bother getting tested unless you believe you've contracted something. To me, it only brings more stress submitting a test, awaiting the results, and AWHing after your test negative. If you've been playing safe, and nothing arwy has gone on, don't worry about it.
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terrible fvckin advice
 
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Get tested. Small price to pay for getting to put it in bare. Just make sure she's on the pill.
 
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