"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My GF is addicted to RPG online!

Scorpio6913

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I don't know the name of the game, but it has to do with Vampires etc.
She claims to be in it for the fashion & friends, however, she jokingly tells me stories of male players inviting her into private rooms where they begin sex talk. She claims that she doesn't indulge them (laughing while describing to me what they say) but plays/messes with them before diconnecting. I respond saying it sounds like a sex game to which she denies & claims that any online RPG games will have some people doing this, also that it is only "Role playing".
I already know from her admission, that she spends hours of her free time playing this game & that a lot of the players are much younger(early twentys) than her.
Does anyone here know much about these online RPG games? Should I be concerned of her cheating on me?
We've only been dating for about 5 months & there has not been a lot of sex between us, maybe because she is getting sexual stimulation from this?
Thanks for your insights in advance!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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if she prefers to chat it up with some cyber geeks that probably look like



then she isnt the girl for you
 

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Scorpio6913 said:
We've only been dating for about 5 months & there has not been a lot of sex between us, maybe because she is getting sexual stimulation from this?
Give her some time alone and see what happens. Just disappear for a week with no contact ( no phone, no text, no email, no smoke signals... nothing ). See how long it takes her to notice. If it takes more than a few days you have your answer.

I have no idea why you would want to be with someone who's not interested in you.
 

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Alle_Gory said:
Give her some time alone and see what happens. Just disappear for a week with no contact ( no phone, no text, no email, no smoke signals... nothing ). See how long it takes her to notice. If it takes more than a few days you have your answer.

I have no idea why you would want to be with someone who's not interested in you.
I have done no contact & she ends up calling me at work, home ect within a day..
I just don't get why she would even tell me these things??
 

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Scorpio6913 said:
I have done no contact & she ends up calling me at work, home ect within a day..
I just don't get why she would even tell me these things??
Well that's good at least. Maybe she wants your attention? This is a really disrespectful way of showing it though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alle_Gory said:
Well that's good at least. Maybe she wants your attention? This is a really disrespectful way of showing it though.
I never thought of that Alle, as a matter of fact, she just contacted me today after me not contacting her for over a day & this is when she brings it up. Thanks for your insight! I'm just surprised a 36 year old woman would do that...
 

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Whatever you decide, you should probably start having more sex with your GF. She sounds like she's kinda bored, playing Vampire RPGs and all.
 

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Sounds like she's wasting her life on vids and you might be wasting yours on her.
 

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Slickster said:
Sounds like she's wasting her life on vids and you might be wasting yours on her.
This is what worries me..
I think at times she would rather play then talk on the phone with me, or have me come over, although she hasn't said so, her actions speak louder.
She also refers to a lot of the male players as her "Buddy". Just yesterday she told me someone with a name like "Hot sex guy" from our area sent her a friends request, while I was on the phone with her, while she was at work. She then said she ignored it, but I'll never really know.
But what really got me is how she described what one guy said to her & how she responded, it was clearly something inappropriate, she thought it was funny, but she accepted going into a private room with him in the first place.
Does anyone else here think this is appropriate??? How can I rectify this without dumping her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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