"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My GF is addicted to RPG online!

Scorpio6913

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I don't know the name of the game, but it has to do with Vampires etc.
She claims to be in it for the fashion & friends, however, she jokingly tells me stories of male players inviting her into private rooms where they begin sex talk. She claims that she doesn't indulge them (laughing while describing to me what they say) but plays/messes with them before diconnecting. I respond saying it sounds like a sex game to which she denies & claims that any online RPG games will have some people doing this, also that it is only "Role playing".
I already know from her admission, that she spends hours of her free time playing this game & that a lot of the players are much younger(early twentys) than her.
Does anyone here know much about these online RPG games? Should I be concerned of her cheating on me?
We've only been dating for about 5 months & there has not been a lot of sex between us, maybe because she is getting sexual stimulation from this?
Thanks for your insights in advance!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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if she prefers to chat it up with some cyber geeks that probably look like



then she isnt the girl for you
 

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Scorpio6913 said:
We've only been dating for about 5 months & there has not been a lot of sex between us, maybe because she is getting sexual stimulation from this?
Give her some time alone and see what happens. Just disappear for a week with no contact ( no phone, no text, no email, no smoke signals... nothing ). See how long it takes her to notice. If it takes more than a few days you have your answer.

I have no idea why you would want to be with someone who's not interested in you.
 

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Alle_Gory said:
Give her some time alone and see what happens. Just disappear for a week with no contact ( no phone, no text, no email, no smoke signals... nothing ). See how long it takes her to notice. If it takes more than a few days you have your answer.

I have no idea why you would want to be with someone who's not interested in you.
I have done no contact & she ends up calling me at work, home ect within a day..
I just don't get why she would even tell me these things??
 

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Scorpio6913 said:
I have done no contact & she ends up calling me at work, home ect within a day..
I just don't get why she would even tell me these things??
Well that's good at least. Maybe she wants your attention? This is a really disrespectful way of showing it though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alle_Gory said:
Well that's good at least. Maybe she wants your attention? This is a really disrespectful way of showing it though.
I never thought of that Alle, as a matter of fact, she just contacted me today after me not contacting her for over a day & this is when she brings it up. Thanks for your insight! I'm just surprised a 36 year old woman would do that...
 

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Whatever you decide, you should probably start having more sex with your GF. She sounds like she's kinda bored, playing Vampire RPGs and all.
 

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Sounds like she's wasting her life on vids and you might be wasting yours on her.
 

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Slickster said:
Sounds like she's wasting her life on vids and you might be wasting yours on her.
This is what worries me..
I think at times she would rather play then talk on the phone with me, or have me come over, although she hasn't said so, her actions speak louder.
She also refers to a lot of the male players as her "Buddy". Just yesterday she told me someone with a name like "Hot sex guy" from our area sent her a friends request, while I was on the phone with her, while she was at work. She then said she ignored it, but I'll never really know.
But what really got me is how she described what one guy said to her & how she responded, it was clearly something inappropriate, she thought it was funny, but she accepted going into a private room with him in the first place.
Does anyone else here think this is appropriate??? How can I rectify this without dumping her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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