You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I don't know Rollo, you'd have to always stuff something into her mouth to keep her from expounding on her vast knowledge.Rollo Tomassi said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Where's my suitcase? I'm outta' here! :nervous:Ace of Flames said:A true representative of America.
Please take me with you. I'm afraid.Francisco d'Anconia said:Where's my suitcase? I'm outta' here! :nervous:
Having all multiple years of posts in one account without any bans is my real achievement.Ace of Flames said:Please take me with you. I'm afraid.![]()
On a completely unrelated note: Francisco... your post count is... wow. I mean, jeebus dude, when did that happen? The posts, they're like bunnies! :cheer:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I wouldn't think that to be so hard. I've done the same.Francisco d'Anconia said:Having all multiple years of posts in one account without any bans is my real achievement.![]()
The thing about the survey is that it only included 500 or so young adults (18-24yo) at random. Not quite a balanced sample in my book. Also, they didn't say whether "Americans" actually meant citizens or was it just people living in this country regardless or their nationality.Stuntmann said:"A recent pole suggests that 5th of Americans can't locate U.S. on the world map. Why do you think that is?"
Because the United States is drawn differently on the world map, than it is on the map of United States. It looks different. Daaaa!!
Francisco d'Anconia said:The thing about the survey is that it only included 500 or so young adults (18-24yo) at random. Not quite a balanced sample in my book. Also, they didn't say whether "Americans" actually meant citizens or was it just people living in this country regardless or their nationality.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.