Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I don't know Rollo, you'd have to always stuff something into her mouth to keep her from expounding on her vast knowledge.Rollo Tomassi said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Where's my suitcase? I'm outta' here! :nervous:Ace of Flames said:A true representative of America.
Please take me with you. I'm afraid.Francisco d'Anconia said:Where's my suitcase? I'm outta' here! :nervous:
Having all multiple years of posts in one account without any bans is my real achievement.Ace of Flames said:Please take me with you. I'm afraid.![]()
On a completely unrelated note: Francisco... your post count is... wow. I mean, jeebus dude, when did that happen? The posts, they're like bunnies! :cheer:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I wouldn't think that to be so hard. I've done the same.Francisco d'Anconia said:Having all multiple years of posts in one account without any bans is my real achievement.![]()
The thing about the survey is that it only included 500 or so young adults (18-24yo) at random. Not quite a balanced sample in my book. Also, they didn't say whether "Americans" actually meant citizens or was it just people living in this country regardless or their nationality.Stuntmann said:"A recent pole suggests that 5th of Americans can't locate U.S. on the world map. Why do you think that is?"
Because the United States is drawn differently on the world map, than it is on the map of United States. It looks different. Daaaa!!
Francisco d'Anconia said:The thing about the survey is that it only included 500 or so young adults (18-24yo) at random. Not quite a balanced sample in my book. Also, they didn't say whether "Americans" actually meant citizens or was it just people living in this country regardless or their nationality.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.