Okay, I've been reading this forum for a while now, but this is my first post. I recently moved from a (relatively) small town to a much bigger city, and finally got the nerve up to do an approach. I think moving, especially to a bigger place, probably has a good effect on you, given that you'll have to get out and meet some new people at some people.
Not sure if this technically qualifies as a cold approach, given that I had talked to the girl a few minutes earlier. She's a cashier at a convenience store, and when I went up to buy a couple of things, I asked her for directions to the nearest subway station. We discussed directions for a bit, and I mentioned that I was new in town.
After I left the store and had walked up a few blocks, I decided to go back and ask her out for the next day. Luckily, there was no one else in the store, and so extra nerves there..... Here's kinda how it went down...
Me: Hey, do you wanna go out for lunch tomorrow? Cause I just moved here and don't own any cutlery or anything... (lame)
Her: Well, if you're looking for someone to show you around town, I'd be glad. If you're asking for a date, I'm already married (doh!)
Me: Married? You look so young though, how old are you?
She says she's 20, and I ask when she got married. I'm not sure if I said I was embarrassed, or if I just looked it, because she told me not to worry, that it's "happened before." After that, I asked her about the city and what she does on the weekends and what there is to do. Once she said she was married, my nervousness went way down, and I was able to carry on a pretty regular conversation.
Honestly, I was happy with myself just for having asked, but after it happened, I wondered a few things: Should I have taken her up on her offer to show me around a bit? I kinda dodged that question, but afterwards figured that it can't hurt to have a few female friends in town. Also, in the future, when dealing with someone else, does it seem creepy to come back a few minutes later to ask her out? I guessed I should have asked her the first time around. I was also concerned I had stuttered a bit when I first talked (a bad habit), but if so I'll chalk that one up to nerves.
Any suggestions or thoughts? This happened about 20 minutes ago so I'm still reviewing the whole thing a bit....
Not sure if this technically qualifies as a cold approach, given that I had talked to the girl a few minutes earlier. She's a cashier at a convenience store, and when I went up to buy a couple of things, I asked her for directions to the nearest subway station. We discussed directions for a bit, and I mentioned that I was new in town.
After I left the store and had walked up a few blocks, I decided to go back and ask her out for the next day. Luckily, there was no one else in the store, and so extra nerves there..... Here's kinda how it went down...
Me: Hey, do you wanna go out for lunch tomorrow? Cause I just moved here and don't own any cutlery or anything... (lame)
Her: Well, if you're looking for someone to show you around town, I'd be glad. If you're asking for a date, I'm already married (doh!)
Me: Married? You look so young though, how old are you?
She says she's 20, and I ask when she got married. I'm not sure if I said I was embarrassed, or if I just looked it, because she told me not to worry, that it's "happened before." After that, I asked her about the city and what she does on the weekends and what there is to do. Once she said she was married, my nervousness went way down, and I was able to carry on a pretty regular conversation.
Honestly, I was happy with myself just for having asked, but after it happened, I wondered a few things: Should I have taken her up on her offer to show me around a bit? I kinda dodged that question, but afterwards figured that it can't hurt to have a few female friends in town. Also, in the future, when dealing with someone else, does it seem creepy to come back a few minutes later to ask her out? I guessed I should have asked her the first time around. I was also concerned I had stuttered a bit when I first talked (a bad habit), but if so I'll chalk that one up to nerves.
Any suggestions or thoughts? This happened about 20 minutes ago so I'm still reviewing the whole thing a bit....
