My FB started turning into a relationship

[handle]

I've had a FB for about 3 months and we were friends before so I didn't feel comfortable just making it about sex. We hang out a lot too. So now it's starting to get like a relationship and it turns out as I got to know her she's pretty great. Only thing is a term's starting up (in other words, crazy partying) and there's this other girl digging me that's fine as hell, and I feel like I'd connect with too. I'd want to try hanging out with this other girl a bit if I can, but I feel like it's gonna be a jerk move if I don't establish the relationship with this FB soon (not jerk that girls secretly love, just straight up jerk!)

Always go for risky, shinier prospects? If I fvck up stuff with the girl I'm kinda with right now, I'll probably be pretty pissed. But being single is where it's at for January...

 

[Halloween]

Why stay with your "FB"? You will gain valuable life experience at:

(1) staying with a girl, despite all the seemingly better offers out there (ie willpower)

(2) retaining an exciting and fun relationship over a longer period of time

(3) getting to appreciate and know someone more deeply (which you've already begun)

Basically, this site places a lot of emphasis on the initial short-term part of a relationship, but I want to stress there's a whole lot more to relationships than that, and it doesn't suddenly become "easy" after the f-close.

HOWEVER, it sounds like you're feeling a little bit trapped in the relationship with your FB. If that's the case, it's going to cause you more grief than good in the long run.

It's not a jerk move to not establish a relationship if you're not ready. I would argue the opposite.

Sorry, that was kinda rambly. But my two cents.

 

[Allurre]

She's your FB, why not keep it that way? If your conscience goes on a guilt rush, then reconsider what you want your relationship status with her to be. Ask yourself, is she absolutely girlfriend material?