"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My fail safe way of judging IL in a LTR

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This isn't going to be a long diatribe but its the one way that I've been able to judge a women's IL when in a LTR. Whether or not she's willing to let you butt fvck her. Now I don't do it often because thats just pushing it but I make sure I do it at least every 2nd to 3rd month. The minute she stops letting you, start finding a new plate. But don't make its obvious that, the but fvcking is the reason why.

Its something that I picked up a while back and I actually initiated it during my last LTR w/ my oneitis. During the first 8 months that I was with her, she was all for it but after the fiasco w/ her dad, there was no more but fvcking and her IL went under the floor.

Unfortunately I didn't listen to my own guidelines that I put in place. Just a suggestion out of left field for you's to contemplate.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Interesting, but I have to disagree. I've had chicks with high IL who just weren't into that. And to tell you the truth, I'm not into it either. I like to fvck a woman like a woman, not like some jailhouse b1tch.
 

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I'd say a better gauge would be blow jobs. Butt fukking is one of those rare deals when the girl has to be in the "zone" I guess you could say. Relaxed, and assured of no bowel movement.
 

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yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i think a better way to put this is that if your woman's sexual appetites suddenly change its a bad sign.

i would agree with this generally speaking.

and i will also confirm that when a woman is really in to you she will do whatever you want in bed. i haven't met a woman yet who wasn't willing to try anal if she was really in to me.

i think women are actually kinkier than men. men are kinky, but generally its only when we are horny. whereas women will be kinky even if they aren't uber horny - they are always down for something taboo.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.

what about fisting, golden showers, and hot carls?
 

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The biggest indicator of interest level is SEX. Not necessarily anal sex. If your with a girl and she never turns you down for sex than she has a high IL.

Other indicators are. Returns your phone calls pronto. Rather be with you than her friends. Initiates sex. Calls you all the time. Will put up with some of your BS.
 

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you know we need to send this advice to Dr. Phil to make sure it gets Nationwide Exposure! :cheer:
 
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