"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My fail safe way of judging IL in a LTR

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This isn't going to be a long diatribe but its the one way that I've been able to judge a women's IL when in a LTR. Whether or not she's willing to let you butt fvck her. Now I don't do it often because thats just pushing it but I make sure I do it at least every 2nd to 3rd month. The minute she stops letting you, start finding a new plate. But don't make its obvious that, the but fvcking is the reason why.

Its something that I picked up a while back and I actually initiated it during my last LTR w/ my oneitis. During the first 8 months that I was with her, she was all for it but after the fiasco w/ her dad, there was no more but fvcking and her IL went under the floor.

Unfortunately I didn't listen to my own guidelines that I put in place. Just a suggestion out of left field for you's to contemplate.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Interesting, but I have to disagree. I've had chicks with high IL who just weren't into that. And to tell you the truth, I'm not into it either. I like to fvck a woman like a woman, not like some jailhouse b1tch.
 

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I'd say a better gauge would be blow jobs. Butt fukking is one of those rare deals when the girl has to be in the "zone" I guess you could say. Relaxed, and assured of no bowel movement.
 

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yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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joekerr31

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i think a better way to put this is that if your woman's sexual appetites suddenly change its a bad sign.

i would agree with this generally speaking.

and i will also confirm that when a woman is really in to you she will do whatever you want in bed. i haven't met a woman yet who wasn't willing to try anal if she was really in to me.

i think women are actually kinkier than men. men are kinky, but generally its only when we are horny. whereas women will be kinky even if they aren't uber horny - they are always down for something taboo.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.

what about fisting, golden showers, and hot carls?
 

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The biggest indicator of interest level is SEX. Not necessarily anal sex. If your with a girl and she never turns you down for sex than she has a high IL.

Other indicators are. Returns your phone calls pronto. Rather be with you than her friends. Initiates sex. Calls you all the time. Will put up with some of your BS.
 

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you know we need to send this advice to Dr. Phil to make sure it gets Nationwide Exposure! :cheer:
 
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