"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My fail safe way of judging IL in a LTR

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This isn't going to be a long diatribe but its the one way that I've been able to judge a women's IL when in a LTR. Whether or not she's willing to let you butt fvck her. Now I don't do it often because thats just pushing it but I make sure I do it at least every 2nd to 3rd month. The minute she stops letting you, start finding a new plate. But don't make its obvious that, the but fvcking is the reason why.

Its something that I picked up a while back and I actually initiated it during my last LTR w/ my oneitis. During the first 8 months that I was with her, she was all for it but after the fiasco w/ her dad, there was no more but fvcking and her IL went under the floor.

Unfortunately I didn't listen to my own guidelines that I put in place. Just a suggestion out of left field for you's to contemplate.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Interesting, but I have to disagree. I've had chicks with high IL who just weren't into that. And to tell you the truth, I'm not into it either. I like to fvck a woman like a woman, not like some jailhouse b1tch.
 

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I'd say a better gauge would be blow jobs. Butt fukking is one of those rare deals when the girl has to be in the "zone" I guess you could say. Relaxed, and assured of no bowel movement.
 

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yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i think a better way to put this is that if your woman's sexual appetites suddenly change its a bad sign.

i would agree with this generally speaking.

and i will also confirm that when a woman is really in to you she will do whatever you want in bed. i haven't met a woman yet who wasn't willing to try anal if she was really in to me.

i think women are actually kinkier than men. men are kinky, but generally its only when we are horny. whereas women will be kinky even if they aren't uber horny - they are always down for something taboo.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.

what about fisting, golden showers, and hot carls?
 

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The biggest indicator of interest level is SEX. Not necessarily anal sex. If your with a girl and she never turns you down for sex than she has a high IL.

Other indicators are. Returns your phone calls pronto. Rather be with you than her friends. Initiates sex. Calls you all the time. Will put up with some of your BS.
 

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you know we need to send this advice to Dr. Phil to make sure it gets Nationwide Exposure! :cheer:
 
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