"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My fail safe way of judging IL in a LTR

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This isn't going to be a long diatribe but its the one way that I've been able to judge a women's IL when in a LTR. Whether or not she's willing to let you butt fvck her. Now I don't do it often because thats just pushing it but I make sure I do it at least every 2nd to 3rd month. The minute she stops letting you, start finding a new plate. But don't make its obvious that, the but fvcking is the reason why.

Its something that I picked up a while back and I actually initiated it during my last LTR w/ my oneitis. During the first 8 months that I was with her, she was all for it but after the fiasco w/ her dad, there was no more but fvcking and her IL went under the floor.

Unfortunately I didn't listen to my own guidelines that I put in place. Just a suggestion out of left field for you's to contemplate.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Interesting, but I have to disagree. I've had chicks with high IL who just weren't into that. And to tell you the truth, I'm not into it either. I like to fvck a woman like a woman, not like some jailhouse b1tch.
 

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I'd say a better gauge would be blow jobs. Butt fukking is one of those rare deals when the girl has to be in the "zone" I guess you could say. Relaxed, and assured of no bowel movement.
 

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yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i think a better way to put this is that if your woman's sexual appetites suddenly change its a bad sign.

i would agree with this generally speaking.

and i will also confirm that when a woman is really in to you she will do whatever you want in bed. i haven't met a woman yet who wasn't willing to try anal if she was really in to me.

i think women are actually kinkier than men. men are kinky, but generally its only when we are horny. whereas women will be kinky even if they aren't uber horny - they are always down for something taboo.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
yep - anal, bl0wjobs, and swallowing, as well as overall frequency of sex. If she likes you, she will also cvm a lot more and a lot harder.

what about fisting, golden showers, and hot carls?
 

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The biggest indicator of interest level is SEX. Not necessarily anal sex. If your with a girl and she never turns you down for sex than she has a high IL.

Other indicators are. Returns your phone calls pronto. Rather be with you than her friends. Initiates sex. Calls you all the time. Will put up with some of your BS.
 

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you know we need to send this advice to Dr. Phil to make sure it gets Nationwide Exposure! :cheer:
 
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