My ex split with me about a year ago. I took it pretty hard and it came out of the blue. Still not exactly sure why but l have my theories. Since then l got past it and am moving forward with my life. Over that time we stayed in touch but nothing to indicate things were going to return to the way they were. You know just friends that live in different cities. Recently she asked me if she could come and visit me over Christmas. Any thoughts?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
My ex wants to visit from interstate after a year apart.
- Thread starter Bear X
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
She had checked out of the relationship long before, was lining up other guys and when she felt everything was in place to branch swing, she told you its over "out of the blue". As women do, she kept a finger on you as "just a friend" in case she feels she could use you for something. A year later she sees such a use. Perhaps her new guys didnt work out like she planned. Maybe she wants to make someone jealous. Maybe cheat. Could be just wanting to check up on how much influence she still has on your feelings to validate and amuse herself. Who knows.
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Doctor Europeo
Moderator
I say bang her if she´s still hot. If she won´t open her legs, kick her out.
R
Ranger
Guest
I guess the guy she left you for isn’t working out too well. LMAO
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.